God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. 4 He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.
-2 Corinthians 1:3b-4, NLT
As long as the church fails to take adultery seriously and continues unbiblical divorce shame, I feel called to continue delivering the message of this blog.
The Church has infidelity abuse so backwards that often victims are blamed for their victimization. They are treated worse than the aggressor in the relationship who is too often coddled and excused.
To be fair, I know plenty of pastors do not know what to do in these situations.
This is in part why I continue to blog. I am trying to provide a resource to pastors and faithful spouses to navigate these tricky waters.
The advice the world gives is too often destructive and has a “wisdom” veneer. Pushing a faithful spouse back into the marriage is like pushing beaten spouse back to her batterer.
Sadly, the reconciliation advice dispensed to faithful spouses is even worse when it is clothed in biblical language. Spiritual abuse abounds in these situations.
I started this blog to “Take Adultery Seriously” and will continue with that battle cry!
While blogs have mostly gone out of vogue, I still believe this small digital shore is serving a purpose and will continue writing.
I think still so many pastors/priests do not know how to deal with this. I know the preacher who was ours when my cheater tore our life apart, was totally honest with my ex and took good care of me. However, I heard him preach a couple times as time went by about the raves of adultery. He knows the ravage he saw it, but still he was struggling with the words. They just don’t know how to be strong on it. I don’t know why, it seems pretty simple to me.
But yeah they need help, and I hope more and more of them are open to it. They generally have no issue talking about the ravages of sin in general, but put the word adultery in there and it gets squeamish.