What do you do if your cheater is narcissist and committed making the divorce full of drama?
I think it goes back to remembering what you control:
YOU.
This means you can choose whether to take their disordered bait or to let the circus go on without you. The best response sometimes is no response at all.
Dealing with a narcissist or other Cluster B personality disordered people is difficult. But remember that their world is distorted by their disease.
The best thing you can do for yourself is not allow yourself to get sucked into their distorted narrative of reality.
How do you do that?
First, you limit your contact to basic business (or completely end your contact following divorce if you do not have kids). You make sure the contact is documented so that you are protected from the craziness per court issues.
Remember: Just because a disordered cheater thinks something is true does not mean sane people will agree with their craziness.
Second, surround yourself with good friends and professionals who reinforce reality with you. I recommend finding a good therapist to help you process the craziness so that you can let go of the madness. The idea is to remind yourself that you are not alone, and reality is not what the disordered person says necessarily.
Finally, remember that you have the power to choose and believe your own narrative. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO AGREE WITH THE CHEATER!
A disordered cheater may be fully convinced of their distorted reality. It is best not to argue realities. Let them believe what they believe. You don’t have to join them, though, in their version of crazy land.
Dealing with a disordered cheater is hard. However, you CAN get through this.
