Cheating on a spouse is not just “a mistake.”
We all make mistakes. True. No one is perfect. However, plenty of people never commit adultery.
Plenty of individuals do not live double lives or engage in concerted gas-lighting behavior to keep their spouse from believing the evidence of their infidelity.
This is not just “a mistake.”
It is a concerted destructive behavior. Anyone with a modicum of compassion would never tell a rape victim that the rapist just made “a mistake.”
The same idea applies to situations with adultery.
Telling a faithful spouse that the adultery was “a mistake” is minimizing a horrifying trauma that the faithful spouse endured.
A true friend does not say such things. It is unkind. Minimally, it is grossly insensitive to the victim of the infidelity.
Call adultery “evil,” “wicked,” or “wrong.”
Don’t call it “a mistake.”
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