Why do we take advice from an unrepentant cheater?
I know I am not the only one who did. At least, I did this for a time. I opened myself up to her criticism as if she was qualified to identify “the problems.”
This likely comes from a desperation to “save the marriage.”
A solution here is getting to a place of acceptance that that marriage ended with the adultery. The “house” was burned to the ground by the “arsonist”–i.e. the cheater. You can still rebuild a house at the same address; but it is a new house.
The unrepentant cheater is not qualified to give marriage advice. They disqualified themselves by cheating and lying.
You do not get to burn the house down and then complain about how ugly those living room drapes were! It is ridiculous.
