Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.

-Hebrews 13:4, NLT

Emotional Affair Back-Handed Blaming

So, your Cheater admits to an “emotional affair.” They may even do this in the presence of a pastor or counselor.

How does this “helper” respond to the disclosure?

Sadly, many “helpers” will zero-in on what “needs” you weren’t meeting in the marriage that made the affair so attractive. Instead of rebuking the Cheater, the session can quickly devolve into a blaming and shaming session of the faithful spouse.

Plus, do not assume this is a complete confession from your Cheater. They know that they can manipulate “helpers” with this sort of confession easier than a full confession.

I wished more “helpers” actually took the emotional affair confession seriously following sound Biblical principles.

Instead of blaming the faithful spouse, the “helper” would lay the blame for this sin firmly upon the Cheater. They would not give any room for excuses or avoidance of responsibility as they would know the Cheater needs to take responsibility before repentance is even possible.

True helpers would not allow Cheaters to use their “emotional affair” confession as a way to launch a back-handed blame-shift.