Ever experienced a cheater deeply worried about another’s feelings?
They are just trying to be a good “hostess.” In their mind, the most important thing is that this “friend” feels comfortable. They want their approval.
What is NOT important to this person is how their spouse feels or thinks!
This is a tell-tale sign that your spouse is cheating. They are in an emotional affair, minimally.
The most important person ought to be your spouse.
When another (potential) sexual rival’s feelings or opinion carries more weight than yours as a spouse, this prioritization demonstrates your spouse has given them their heart. They are cheating.
From the other side, how would it feel if a husband told his wife to make a female “friend” feel more comfortable?
He compliments this “friend,” and his attention is generally focused on her feeling welcomed. This is to the exclusion of how his wife feels about it.
Personally, I think that scenario is even more obvious that an emotional affair (if not a physical one) is already in progress with the “friend.”
The bottom line is a spouse needs to care more about their spouse’s opinion than another “friend’s” (who could be a romantic rival). When they are more concerned with that “friend’s” opinion, then they have crossed over the emotional affair line, in my opinion.
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*A version of this post ran previously.
