Like a flitting sparrow, like a flying swallow, So a curse without cause shall not alight. -Proverbs 26:2, KJV May all who gloat over my distress be put to shame and confusion; may all who exalt themselves over me be clothed with shame and disgrace. -Psalm 35:26, NIV My former father-in-law acted in very arrogant and nasty … Continue reading “Not alight”
Author: Divorce Minister
Deluded Cheaters
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Cheaters are often self-deluded. They think that if they have justified their infidelity to themselves then it is justified. Nothing could be further from the truth. Nothing justifies committing adultery! God does not hand out exceptions to the Ten Commandments. That is not how this most basic … Continue reading “Deluded Cheaters”
Cheater-Speak: “I never meant to hurt you.”
“I never meant to hurt you,” says Cheater. “So, does that make what you did less awful than it is in your head?” says Faithful Spouse. Imagine management. That is what such a statement is about. They are trying to portray themselves as mistaken as opposed to willfully cruel. Regardless of intentions, what they did … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I never meant to hurt you.””
Sends His “Ravens”
Then the word of the Lord came to Elijah: “…You will drink from the brook, and I have directed the ravens to supply you with food there.” …The ravens brought him bread and meat in the morning and bread and meat in the evening, and he drank from the brook. -I Kings 17:2, 4, 6, NIV God sends His “ravens!” It … Continue reading “Sends His “Ravens””
Would’ve been 18 years today…
It would’ve been our eighteenth anniversary today. However, Cheaters do cheater things, and so, it isn’t. Another day… …that is what this day has mostly turned into at this point. I am such a different person than who married that person eighteen years ago. Thankfully, we can grow and learn. I was SO naive back … Continue reading “Would’ve been 18 years today…”
Cheater-Speak: “I love you, but I am not IN LOVE WITH you.”
“I love you, but I am not IN LOVE WITH you,” says lame Cheater. OR “I never loved you,” says cruel Cheater. Notice how these statements are all about the Cheater’s feelings. That is what is important to them. To be fair, they may have never loved you as they were not capable of loving … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I love you, but I am not IN LOVE WITH you.””
All forgiven? Nope. God does not forgive everyone.
“And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.” -Matthew 7:23, KJV While I believe God makes forgiveness available to all (John 3:16, 2 Cor 5:14, etc), I do not believe all are forgiven. This verse from the Sermon on the Mount makes that much clear. … Continue reading “All forgiven? Nope. God does not forgive everyone.”
Only leverage
The wicked flee though no one pursues…. -Proverbs 28:1a, NIV Disturbed people only see a history of cheating as leverage in a marriage. They could care less how the cheating has damaged and harmed the faithful spouse. The bigger problem for them is that they fear the faithful spouse “forever” holding it “over the head” … Continue reading “Only leverage”
Cheated On Support Group – Monday, September 9th
Cheated On Support Group I will be running my support group again. It will start on Monday, September 9, 2024 at 6pm to 8pm. We will meet at Destiny Church, Rochester MN (3240 40th Ave. NW, Rochester, MN 55901). I am excited to see this group continue and hope to see new faces as we … Continue reading “Cheated On Support Group – Monday, September 9th”
PSA: They did not “have to” cheat!
Public Service Announcement (PSA): They did NOT have to cheat on you! No matter what. They chose sin over godliness, and that is on them. Personally, I think this is the most tragic thing about marital infidelity. It is also one of the oldest of lies–i.e. that they “had to” cheat. The cheater did … Continue reading “PSA: They did not “have to” cheat!”