In this the children of God and the children of the devil are manifest: Whoever does not practice righteousness is not of God, nor is he who does not love his brother. -I John 3:10, NLT I wonder if Cheaters act surprised sometimes when caught because they have been cheating so long without detection. Of course, I … Continue reading “Lifestyle of Cheating”
Author: Divorce Minister
How dare we? Ha.
How dare we object to being humiliated by our Cheater?! How dare we object to our Cheater dirty dancing with someone else?! How dare we object to our Cheater taking another partner as their plus one?! How dare we object to our Cheater bad mouthing us to our “friends?!” Cheaters treat faithful spouses as the … Continue reading “How dare we? Ha.”
Well, what did you contribute to the breakdown of your marriage?
“Well, what did you contribute to the breakdown of your marriage?” I hate that question. It is a “Loaded Question”–meaning it assumes you did something to destroy your marriage. Such questions are errors in reasoning–i.e. logical fallacies. While the question looks reasonable, it is really just a dressed up version of “The Shared Responsibility Lie,” … Continue reading “Well, what did you contribute to the breakdown of your marriage?”
Bummer Outcome at My Meet
Today did not go as planned. I missed all three lifts on bench for various reasons. It was a real bummer. That said, I came away injury free, and that is a victory whenever lifting such heavy weights. Plus, failures teach us more than successes do. I plan to be a good student so that … Continue reading “Bummer Outcome at My Meet”
Hobby day! Weighing in for another Bench Only meet.
Tomorrow, I will attempt to enter the 800lbs (363kg) bench pressing club officially at a sanctioned meet. This is my other hobby that I do on the side–i.e. equipped bench press. It is a great physical outlet for me. I am chasing 1,000lbs/454kgs (drug free) on the bench as my ultimate goal. Hopefully, I will … Continue reading “Hobby day! Weighing in for another Bench Only meet.”
“But I wasn’t perfect either.”
“But I wasn’t perfect in our marriage either,” says Faithful Spouse. Do you have to be without sin to be the innocent party regarding the end of your marriage? I remember going through my trial with the denomination and struggling with a version of this question. It was difficult to see myself as the “innocent … Continue reading ““But I wasn’t perfect either.””
On Cheaters Still Stuck
He will sit like a refiner of silver, burning away the dross. He will purify the Levites, refining them like gold and silver, so that they may once again offer acceptable sacrifices to the Lord. -Malachi 3:3, NLT Discovering infidelity is certainly a fiery trial. We can allow this fire to refine us as many of … Continue reading “On Cheaters Still Stuck”
The Confession Manipulation
So, your Cheater confesses to an affair. That’s a good first step to repentance, right?! Maybe…. Sadly, Cheaters can use confessions as a means to manipulate the faithful spouse. They try to contain the damage while blaming the faithful spouse for their sins. This is especially the case when the only confession is a confession … Continue reading “The Confession Manipulation”
Such a surreal feeling!
Years ago, I was driving down I-35. And I was struck by just how otherworldly the feeling was. Divorce was something that happened to other people. Yet it was happening to me. So surreal! I was clearly still in a state of shock. Thankfully, it was only a stage. I got through it, and I … Continue reading “Such a surreal feeling!”
Contentment Secret
I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. -Philippians 4:12b, NIV When I am tempted to spiral into resentment (or start going there), I am reminded of an important spiritual secret: Gratitude is a great antidote to resentment. … Continue reading “Contentment Secret”