On Being Assertive A few weeks ago, I was on a solo trip down to Iowa. On this trip, I went to a local restaurant to have dinner. They asked if it was okay to seat me in a booth, and I acquiesced to this. The problem is that I am a large man. In … Continue reading “On being assertive”
Author: Divorce Minister
Could have gone differently!
A danger for faithful spouses is focusing on the fantasy and not the reality of their situation. A spouse who cheats is the opposite of what the faithful spouse signed up for on their wedding day. Obviously, the marriage could have gone a very different way. That was the expectation, actually–i.e. a lifelong, faithful relationship. I think … Continue reading “Could have gone differently!”
So cut off
“This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’” -Proverbs 30:20, NIV This proverb is true for all genders as it comes to cheating. Cheaters have no shame. I was thinking about the phenomenon of Cheaters not connecting the dots as it comes to … Continue reading “So cut off”
Thankfulness is important
Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. -I Thessalonians 5:18, NLT Ever notice how often we take our own health for granted until we get sick? Maybe it is only me who does this? But I doubt it. Focusing on what we do NOT have … Continue reading “Thankfulness is important”
God still rules!
“This is my Father’s world. O let me ne’er forget That though the wrong Seems oft so strong, God is the ruler yet.” -“This Is My Father’s World” lyrics by Maltbie Babcock, 1901. Christians, we ought to be the world’s greatest optimists. We know who is in control. The world might be falling apart in … Continue reading “God still rules!”
So called “Advice”
After the Lord had said these things to Job, he said to Eliphaz the Temanite, “I am angry with you and your two friends, because you have not spoken the truth about me, as my servant Job has. -Job 42:7, NIV Ever had that “friend” who got furious with you because you did not do whatever they told … Continue reading “So called “Advice””
Nary an apology!
When cheating happens, it damages more than just the marriage. It also destroys “friendships” as well. I have no problem questioning how Christian someone is who supports a Cheater over the faithful spouse while fully knowing of the infidelity. Minimally, they are NOT friendship material for the faithful spouse. Further, such people have different values … Continue reading “Nary an apology!”
God keeps His promises!
For all the promises of God in him are yea, and in him Amen, unto the glory of God by us. 2 Corinthians 1:20, KJV Today, I am sharing another song. May its words encourage you. Make it a prayer in faith. You might be going through a dark time, but never forget that God is a … Continue reading “God keeps His promises!”
About power
25 Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. 26 Not so with you.” -Matthew 20:25-26a, NIV Cheaters lie to hold power over faithful spouses. “Knowledge is power” as the saying goes. This means Cheaters are careful to control who has … Continue reading “About power”
But I did burn his evening meal…
“But I DID burn his evening meal,” says battered wife. What happens when your Cheater does actually touch on a real complaint about you? Most of us are rather introspective individuals as faithful spouses. We are probably painfully aware of our own faults and failures. So, it is especially disorienting in this time when your … Continue reading “But I did burn his evening meal…”