Outside the city are the dogs–the sorcerers, the sexually immoral, the murderers, the idol worshipers, and all who love to live a lie. -Revelation 22:15, NLT Lie to Liar. At some point, I believe God gives cheaters over to their lies. They no longer are people telling lies. They are liars. The lie is what … Continue reading “Lying to Liar”
Author: Divorce Minister
Somehow I was wrong?!
“This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’” -Proverbs 30:20, NIV I wonder how many of us had “skilled” Cheaters who could turn their wrong into “our” fault in the therapist’s or pastor’s office. Maybe they even freely admitted to cheating on you … Continue reading “Somehow I was wrong?!”
Cheater-Speak: “I think it is best….”
“I think it’s best for both of us if we live apart.” -Cheater Cheaters saying this is speaking for both parties to serve their own nefarious agenda–i.e. unfettered access to cheat. Strange how Cheaters get to decide for the whole couple what is best! They did not ask but rather told their partner what is … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I think it is best….””
If not you, then someone else.
21 For from within, out of a person’s heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, 22 adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, lustful desires, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness. -Mark 7:21-22, NLT If not you, then someone else. I suspect the seeds for cheating were already planted within the Cheater’s heart when we first married them. They may or … Continue reading “If not you, then someone else.”
One-sided transparency
One-sided transparency Funny how some Cheaters want their partners to be completely transparent with them while hiding the darkest secrets for themselves. This is yet another power play on their part. They want the information. They want what you know. Then they know what you know and what they know as a mentor of mine … Continue reading “One-sided transparency”
Major Support for Divorce–WCF 1646
“Adultery or fornication, committed after a contract, being detected before marriage, giveth just occasion to the innocent party to dissolve that contract. In the case of adultery after marriage, it is lawful for the innocent party to sue out a divorce, and after the divorce to marry another, as if the offending party were dead.” … Continue reading “Major Support for Divorce–WCF 1646”
Okay to admit being “not okay”
Walking in reality is good for our souls. Sometimes, that means admitting that we are “not okay.” But we can still hold hope that eventually we will be well. As we walk with Jesus, we know this is true. AND God can handle us being upset and “not okay” in the present. I love this … Continue reading “Okay to admit being “not okay””
To my faithful spouse dads, Happy Father’s Day!!!
Happy Father’s Day!!! Years ago, I felt this day acutely. My divorce had gone through, and I felt the death of dreams. We had no children. Then that changed when I met Mrs. DM and Munchkin. I became a husband and father all at once. It remains one of the best decisions of my life. … Continue reading “To my faithful spouse dads, Happy Father’s Day!!!”
Will reap destruction!
7 Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. 8 Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life. -Galatians 6:7-8, NIV Reaping Destruction This is the spiritual outcome for those who indulge in sin. They will not reap … Continue reading “Will reap destruction!”
Sucker punch feeling
What just happened? You thought your spouse would never cheat on you. That was until you were faced with indisputable evidence to the contrary. It is a sucker punch to the gut. I think infidelity discovery is one the most disorienting experiences a human can have. The betrayal is soul deep. Depending on how long … Continue reading “Sucker punch feeling”