Grief is not linear and is not rational. I don’t know about you, but I wish this was otherwise about grief. It would be nice to say that when you’ve gone through one task then it is done. But that is NOT how grief works. It doesn’t go through orderly phases in sequence. It isn’t … Continue reading “Not linear”
Author: Divorce Minister
A prayer to help heal and forgive
Here’s a prayer I wrote for anyone struggling letting go of anger towards a cheater and their apologist(s). This prayer serves as a reminder that we have a say in letting go of our anger, which is based on our trust in God’s character. In my experience, we have to practice choosing to let go over and … Continue reading “A prayer to help heal and forgive”
To be seen and heard!
13 Thereafter, Hagar used another name to refer to the Lord, who had spoken to her. She said, “You are the God who sees me.” She also said, “Have I truly seen the One who sees me?” 14 So that well was named Beer-lahai-roi (which means “well of the Living One who sees me”). -Genesis 16:13-14a, NLT Faithful spouses … Continue reading “To be seen and heard!”
Gonna end it on own, really?!
Ever have your Cheater offer to end the affair on their own? I mean that they offer to tell the Affair Partner privately–without you–that it is over. That offer is not worth much. You are taking the word of a liar who has demonstrated a willingness and ability to carry on a double-life. “Receipts” are … Continue reading “Gonna end it on own, really?!”
Actually, He cares!
The man runs away because he is a hired hand and cares nothing for the sheep. -John 10:13, NIV Years ago, I was a happy cat owner. Birds were not on my radar as pets. That all changed with Mrs. DM a few years into our marriage. She started volunteering at a local parrot rescue. … Continue reading “Actually, He cares!”
Refuse to accept ANY responsibility for THEIR actions!
For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad. -2 Corinthian 5:10, KJV Never, ever concede to even partial blame when it comes to the cheating of your partner. If … Continue reading “Refuse to accept ANY responsibility for THEIR actions!”
Not an youth problem!
Then Samuel asked, “Are these all the sons you have?” “There is still the youngest,” Jesse replied. “But he’s out in the fields watching the sheep and goats.” “Send for him at once,” Samuel said. “We will not sit down to eat until he arrives.” -I Samuel 16:11, NLT Not much has changed in years … Continue reading “Not an youth problem!”
A Hindsight Lesson
Friends, pastors, and counselors can be valuable resources; however… ….you will ultimately be the one who has to live with your decision about your marriage and answer for it before God (see 2 Cor 5:10). One of my mistakes in my marriage’s dissolution years ago was allowing far too many people into the inner sanctum … Continue reading “A Hindsight Lesson”
HUNDREDS of texts is NOT innocent!
But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God. -John 3:21, NIV Graphic pictures of compromising behavior seems to be almost needed to convince some pastors and Christians that a spouse is violating their … Continue reading “HUNDREDS of texts is NOT innocent!”
As if it was always a mutual decision!
Publicly, some Cheaters may present the divorce story as if it was always a mutual decision based on unfortunate circumstances. They HATE when an uppity faithful spouse spills the beans, though, about their cheating. That is NOT what they want others knowing. The last thing they want is accountability or consequences for their cheating. Now, … Continue reading “As if it was always a mutual decision!”