“I felt like a used piece of tissue paper. Just thrown away in the trash.” – Vineyard pastor The quote might not be exact. However, I will never forget the thrust of what she said. The message was unmistakable. This brave pastoral spouse shared to a young Vineyard Church about her experience of being sexually … Continue reading “Feeling like used, discarded tissue”
Author: Divorce Minister
Hosea Exception, NOT Rule!
When the Lord began to speak by Hosea, the Lord said to Hosea: “Go, take yourself a wife of harlotry And children of harlotry, For the land has committed great harlotry By departing from the Lord.” – Hosea 1:2, NKJV What strikes me as in the last post is how biblically educated men can miss how this was a very special call upon … Continue reading “Hosea Exception, NOT Rule!”
Decisions made to cheat
He went on: “What comes out of a person is what defiles them. For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come—sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery…. -Mark 7:20-22a, NIV Cheating does not “just happen.” Even those cheating events that happen with alcohol involved are evidence of what is already in the … Continue reading “Decisions made to cheat”
Marriage resurrection is a miracle, not normal outcome.
….but the angel said, “Don’t be alarmed. You are looking for Jesus of Nazareth, who was crucified. He isn’t here! He is risen from the dead! Look, this is where they laid his body.” -Mark 16:6, NLT Resurrection is unexpected. It is not how things normally go. This is in part why Jesus coming back from … Continue reading “Marriage resurrection is a miracle, not normal outcome.”
Refusing to see victims!
2 “How long will you defend the unjust and show partiality to the wicked? 3 Defend the weak and the fatherless; uphold the cause of the poor and the oppressed. 4 Rescue the weak and the needy; deliver them from the hand of the wicked.” -Psalm 82:2-4, NIV How can justice be done if we refuse to acknowledge the existence … Continue reading “Refusing to see victims!”
Happy Easter, Faithful Spouses!
…but the angel said, “Don’t be alarmed. You are looking for Jesus of Nazareth, who was crucified. He isn’t here! He is risen from the dead! Look, this is where they laid his body.” -Mark 16:6, NLT Resurrection Sunday. I am sure many of us have heard stories about God doing the impossible on Resurrection … Continue reading “Happy Easter, Faithful Spouses!”
Happy? Holy Saturday
And so, because it was the day of preparation for the Jewish Passover and since the tomb was close at hand, they laid Jesus there. -John 19:42, NLT Dreams shattered. Hope stolen and crushed on the cross. His political enemies seemingly victorious having executed Jesus in the most humiliating and excruciating way known to … Continue reading “Happy? Holy Saturday”
Too much and too little patience
You are so proud of yourselves, but you should be mourning in sorrow and shame. And you should remove this man from your fellowship. -I Corinthians 5:2, NLT In my experience, Christians often have too much patience for Cheaters and too little for their victims–i.e. faithful spouses. Cheaters are given chance after chance to repent. … Continue reading “Too much and too little patience”
A Decade Already!
Today, Mrs. DM and I celebrate ten years of marriage! I share this as a word of encouragement to those in the midst of “the suck.” It can and does get better on the other side of the divorce. Looking back, I felt like my world ended with my divorce. So many dreams died with … Continue reading “A Decade Already!”
Hosea’s special life calling
When the Lord began to speak by Hosea, the Lord said to Hosea: “Go, take yourself a wife of harlotry And children of harlotry, For the land has committed great harlotry By departing from the Lord.” – Hosea 1:2, NKJV What strikes me as in the last post is how biblically educated men can miss how this was a very special call upon … Continue reading “Hosea’s special life calling”