Author: Divorce Minister

Grateful for my secular divorce lawyer

When I got divorced back in 2012, I had a good divorce lawyer. She was probably the clearest-eyed professional in the whole saga ending. It was a flat fee sort of thing. Looking back, I am grateful that somehow I found this lawyer seeing how divorce attorneys can be very expensive. (It was definitely a … Continue reading “Grateful for my secular divorce lawyer”

Cheater offering “honesty”

“Well, I have learned that I have to be open and honest. You never… (Cheater’s pet peeve about faithful spouse).” -Cheater to Pastor in Couple’s Session Does this ring a bell for anyone? If it does, I submit it does as it is part of the demonic playbook to destroy faithful spouses. To be clear, … Continue reading “Cheater offering “honesty””

Faithful to the faithful

  25 To the faithful you show yourself faithful;     to those with integrity you show integrity. 26 To the pure you show yourself pure,     but to the crooked you show yourself shrewd. 27 You rescue the humble,     but you humiliate the proud. -Psalm 18:25-27, NLT God is faithful. And God is not fooled by the behavior of Cheaters. … Continue reading “Faithful to the faithful”

Golden Rule: Telling Other Partner

Do to others as you would like them to do to you. -Luke 6:31, NLT If you know someone is cheating on their spouse, do you tell the faithful spouse? In a word: YES!!! Now, that does not mean you have to tell them immediately. However, I figure the Golden Rule applies here. Would you … Continue reading “Golden Rule: Telling Other Partner”

Cheater-Speak: “I never intended to hurt you.”

“I never intended to hurt you,” says Cheater. “Whatever. That does not excuse you for horribly sinning against me,” replies Faithful Spouse. Cheaters professing golden intentions are trying to minimize what they did. It is a move to sanitize their image. They do not want to think or others to think that they are that … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I never intended to hurt you.””

Cheater-Speak: “My toxic shame”

“Talking about it just triggers my toxic shame. I can’t face what I did.” -Cheater This is a real conundrum for a faithful spouse. It is hard to heal when you do not have some of the basic facts and your spouse is refusing to help on that number citing “toxic shame.” The “toxic shame” … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “My toxic shame””