“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” -John 13:34, NIV Jesus is not commanding our feelings. That would not make sense. Our emotions just are. A command implies a choice to do or not to do something. That means we have a choice–i.e. … Continue reading “Love is a choice.”
Author: Divorce Minister
Catchy Tune About Recovering…”It Don’t Hurt Like It Used To”
While I do not condone or recommend using alcohol to deal with heart-break, I appreciate some of the lessons this catchy tune from Billy Currington highlights about recovering. Two points I particularly appreciate: The singer refuses to lie about the pain. The pain and grief is worse if we refused to acknowledge the obvious: It hurts … Continue reading “Catchy Tune About Recovering…”It Don’t Hurt Like It Used To””
DM Processing Recent RNS Tullian Tchividjian Interview
On Thursday, an interview was published between Tullian Tchividjian and Jonathan Merritt on the Religious News Service. The interview is entitled, “Billy Graham’s grandson on his near suicide and whether he’s planning a comeback.” To begin, I want to be clear that I am glad TT did not die by suicide. Human life is a … Continue reading “DM Processing Recent RNS Tullian Tchividjian Interview”
Repentant or Rebranding? Tullian Tchividjian in the news, again.
But now I have written to you not to keep company with anyone named a brother, who is sexually immoral…—not even to eat with such a person. -I Corinthians 5:11, NKJV Disgraced Pastor Tullian Tchividjian, grandson of Reverend Billy Graham, is back in the news again. This time he wrote a piece on a website … Continue reading “Repentant or Rebranding? Tullian Tchividjian in the news, again.”
Sick Secrets…
On my commute into work, I listen to a local radio station that dispenses relationship advice. This segment on KS95 is called “Love ’em or List ’em.” Today’s situation involved cheating and the advice given was mostly awful. A quick recap of the situation: Angela is the caller. She just got engaged but is sick … Continue reading “Sick Secrets…”
Affair or Predation? On Ministerial Sexual Misconduct.
Then it happened one evening that David arose from his bed and walked on the roof of the king’s house. And from the roof he saw a woman bathing, and the woman was very beautiful to behold. -2 Samuel 11:2, NKJV When a minister abuses his or her position to have sex with a congregant, … Continue reading “Affair or Predation? On Ministerial Sexual Misconduct.”
Yes, it CAN be that bad!
And this is the condemnation, that the light has come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. -John 3:19, NKJV Shock. That is a normal response to traumatic revelations. And the revelation that one’s spouse cheated and lied to cover it up certainly qualifies as a traumatic … Continue reading “Yes, it CAN be that bad!”
DM Blog Milestone: 100,000+ Unique Visitors!!!
PTL: 100,000+ Unique Visitors From 165+ Countries! A little over two years ago, I started Divorce Minister wondering if anyone would bother to read my thoughts about divorce, adultery, and Christianity. Today, I have seen the blog traffic monitor cross a major threshold. The verdict is in… Over one hundred thousand individuals have demonstrated their interest in the subject … Continue reading “DM Blog Milestone: 100,000+ Unique Visitors!!!”
Don’t dig up the “bones.”
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing!” -Isaiah 43:18-19a, NIV Sometimes ruminating on the past just inflicts more suffering. Not doing this is easier said than done, of course. And we do need space to tell our stories plus acknowledge what happened actually happened. That is … Continue reading “Don’t dig up the “bones.””
Can you live with the lies?
All day long you plot destruction. Your tongue cuts like a sharp razor; you’re an expert at telling lies. You love evil more than good and lies more than truth. -Psalm 52:2-3, NLT I am a firm believer when it comes to full disclosure to the faithful spouse regarding what the cheater did. Darkness is only … Continue reading “Can you live with the lies?”