Plead with your mother, plead: for she is not my wife, neither am I her husband: let her therefore put away her whoredoms out of her sight, and her adulteries from between her breasts…. -Hosea 2:2, KJV Have you ever noticed how quick Christians are to lay the burden of marriage restoration upon the adultery … Continue reading “Notice how Christians expect faithful spouses to pursue but cheaters not?!”
Author: Divorce Minister
Not Funny: “I am so glad my wife puts up with me. Ha. Ha.”
Some Pharisees came to him to test him [Jesus]. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” -Matthew 19:3, NIV Jesus’ response (summarized): NO. Divorce is only permissible for sexual immorality (see Matthew 19:9). It is healthy to extend grace to our spouses for their foibles … Continue reading “Not Funny: “I am so glad my wife puts up with me. Ha. Ha.””
The “Cry for Help” Manipulation
“Don’t you see it [the cheating] was a cry for help?! If only you had ____ (fill in favorite cheater grievance with faithful spouse) more, then I wouldn’t have cheated.” -Unfaithful spouse Using the “Cry for help” excuse for an affair–either emotional or physical–is manipulation pure and simple. The cheater is using this label to … Continue reading “The “Cry for Help” Manipulation”
Reconciling Cheaters, Better Bring Your “A” Game!
Thus saith the LORD, Where is the bill of your mother’s divorcement, whom I have put away? or which of my creditors is it to whom I have sold you? Behold, for your iniquities have ye sold yourselves, and for your transgressions is your mother put away. -Isaiah 50:1, KJV A cheater is not … Continue reading “Reconciling Cheaters, Better Bring Your “A” Game!”
Dumb and Dangerous Advice
“Why don’t you both take a break from each other?” -Clueless Counselor This is one of the dumbness pieces of advice given to a couple dealing with infidelity. The problems of an infidelity ravaged marriage are not solved by creating more distance and less accountability for the cheater. Both are the last things needed, actually. A break is … Continue reading “Dumb and Dangerous Advice”
If blaming…cheaters ain’t there to reconcile!
And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” -Genesis 3:11-12, NIV Just because a cheater goes to couple’s therapy … Continue reading “If blaming…cheaters ain’t there to reconcile!”
DM’s first video blogging…vlogging episode
To get out the message of Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously to more people, I have started to put my thoughts down in video form. The following YouTube video is just the first teaser of what is to come in the future. Thanks to a regular reader, he has alerted me to the reality that some people … Continue reading “DM’s first video blogging…vlogging episode”
What was the most confusing thing about the experience?
What was the most confusing part of the experience? So much is confusing and difficult when discovering a spouse has been unfaithful. So called “Christian” advice to forgive and forget in an effort to “save” the marriage is a big piece that adds to the confusion of the day. Another candidate for most confusing is the … Continue reading “What was the most confusing thing about the experience?”
Jesus is madly in love with you! Believe it.
“I love Jesus. And on my good days, I actually believe He loves me, and–in fact–even enjoys my company.” -DM God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. -I John 4:16b, NIV Believing in God’s love for us is made more difficult for those who have experienced great rejection. … Continue reading “Jesus is madly in love with you! Believe it.”
Does Feminism Cause Divorce?
Test all things; hold fast what is good. Abstain from every form of evil. -I Thessalonians 5:21-22, NKJV Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves….Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, … Continue reading “Does Feminism Cause Divorce?”