“Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil. -Ephesians 4:26-27, NKJV Anger is a faithful spouse’s friend. It is for moments like these that our wise Creator gave us the emotion of anger. This is a precious, precious gift of an emotion. … Continue reading “Get Righteously Pissed!!!”
Author: Divorce Minister
Rebuking is Christ-honoring behavior, too!
When Cephas came to Antioch, I opposed him to his face, because he stood condemned…The other Jews joined him in his hypocrisy…. -Galatians 2:11, 13a, NIV Sometimes a rebuke is in order. Cephas, aka the Apostle Peter, needed a rebuke by the Apostle Paul for doing what he knew was wrong and leading others astray … Continue reading “Rebuking is Christ-honoring behavior, too!”
On Finding An Excellent Spouse
DM & Mrs. DM taken while still dating Conventional Christian dating advice is CRAP! That is what I learned going through my divorce. Such advice promises much and delivers little. I put too much stock in following Christian dating rules to the detriment of ignoring red flags that might have spared me a marriage to … Continue reading “On Finding An Excellent Spouse”
Stop Swigging Salt Water!
So Moses brought Israel from the Red sea, and they went out into the wilderness of Shur; and they went three days in the wilderness, and found no water. And when they came to Marah, they could not drink of the waters of Marah, for they were bitter: therefore the name of it was called … Continue reading “Stop Swigging Salt Water!”
On the “Being Unhappy” Reason For Divorce
“But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman also commits adultery.” -Matthew 5:32, NLT Part of the justification cheaters often use to blame-shift upon faithful spouses is the charge of being unhappy in the marriage. Let’s … Continue reading “On the “Being Unhappy” Reason For Divorce”
Ungodly pastoral counsel comes from educated, religious leaders, too!
Then the Pharisees called a meeting to plot how to kill Jesus. -Matthew 12:14, NLT For many years, I struggled with the idea of standing up for myself with medical professionals. The idea of “firing” one’s doctor did not seem like a real possibility for me. You see, I had grown up in a medical … Continue reading “Ungodly pastoral counsel comes from educated, religious leaders, too!”
Pastors, Let’s NOT spiritually abuse faithful spouses!
“And whosoever shall offend one of these little ones that believe in me, it is better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he were cast into the sea.” -Mark 9:42, KJV Spiritual abuse is all too common in Christian circles regarding situations involving infidelity. And it breaks my heart as … Continue reading “Pastors, Let’s NOT spiritually abuse faithful spouses!”
“Thou shalt not commit adultery” is NOT confusing, folks!
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV When an adulterous spouse feigns ignorance or confusion over the ending of their marriage, it is a ploy to avoid taking responsibility. This isn’t rocket science, folks! God does not command the ending of a marriage over adultery in the Old Testament to signal such sin is … Continue reading ““Thou shalt not commit adultery” is NOT confusing, folks!”
An Ancient Evil
“Moria… You fear to go into those mines. The dwarves delved too greedily and too deep. You know what they awoke in the darkness of Khazad-dum… shadow and flame.” -Saruman (3:59 in clip above) As Americans, we often take an overly individualistic perspective on adultery.We fail to see that this sin impacts the community and … Continue reading “An Ancient Evil”
Former In-Laws and Pride
Do you see a person wise in their own eyes? There is more hope for a fool than for them. -Proverbs 26:12, NIV Though the LORD be high, yet hath he respect unto the lowly: but the proud he knoweth afar off. -Psalm 138:6, KJV Beware of the proud in-law. These are the sort of … Continue reading “Former In-Laws and Pride”