Author: Divorce Minister

Insidious Insanity Surrounding False Sin Equivalencies

“If people are fighting and hit a pregnant woman and she gives birth prematurely but there is no serious injury, the offender must be fined whatever the woman’s husband demands and the court allows. But if there is serious injury, you are to take life for life, eye for eye, tooth for tooth, hand for hand, foot … Continue reading “Insidious Insanity Surrounding False Sin Equivalencies”

“Of course, her cheating on you was wrong. But we both know you contributed your own sins to the marriage as well.”

“Of course, her cheating on you was wrong. But we both know you contributed your own sins to the marriage as well.” -Concerned Christian “friend” This sort of response to adultery is wrong on multiple levels: First, this sort of response indicates the speaker is equating sins via suggesting the faithful spouse’s sin(s) in the … Continue reading ““Of course, her cheating on you was wrong. But we both know you contributed your own sins to the marriage as well.””

Yes, it happened. Yes, you didn’t deserve it.

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV “Yes, it happened. She cheated on you. And yes, you didn’t deserve it. It’s not your fault.” You really want to help a faithful spouse. These are the sort … Continue reading “Yes, it happened. Yes, you didn’t deserve it.”

Holding The Tension On Divorce

  To the faithful you show yourself faithful,     to the blameless you show yourself blameless, to the pure you show yourself pure,     but to the devious you show yourself shrewd. You save the humble     but bring low those whose eyes are haughty. -Psalm 18:25-27, NIV A tension is present when it comes to the question … Continue reading “Holding The Tension On Divorce”

Denial Is Not Always A Bad Thing!

For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live soberly, righteously, and godly in the present age…. -Titus 2:11-12, NKJV (emphasis mine) Then said Jesus unto his disciples, “If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take … Continue reading “Denial Is Not Always A Bad Thing!”

Keeping Your Vow Is Your Job And Not Another’s!

Lord, who may dwell in your sacred tent?     Who may live on your holy mountain? The one whose walk is blameless … who keeps an oath even when it hurts,     and does not change their mind…. -Psalm 15:1-2a,4b, NIV I just do not get the counseling world and the fascination in making faithful spouses responsible for … Continue reading “Keeping Your Vow Is Your Job And Not Another’s!”

Really?! Dr. Gary Chapman On Cheaters.

Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! I Corinthians 6:15, NIV When I was going through my separation prior to divorce, I read many books in my desperation to “save” my marriage. One of those … Continue reading “Really?! Dr. Gary Chapman On Cheaters.”

False Spiritual Safety

“Many will say to me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works?’ And then will I profess unto them, ‘I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity.’” -Matthew 7:22-23, KJV (quotation marks … Continue reading “False Spiritual Safety”

Better Divorced Than Damned!

“And I will come near to you to judgment; and I will be a swift witness against the sorcerers, and against the adulterers, and against false swearers, and against those that oppress the hireling in his wages, the widow, and the fatherless, and that turn aside the stranger from his right, and fear not me,” … Continue reading “Better Divorced Than Damned!”