My football coaches didn’t hate me… …but they did hold me accountable for my actions on the field. For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad. – 2 Corinthians 5:10, … Continue reading “My football coaches didn’t hate me…”
Author: Divorce Minister
Not Worth The Aggravation.
Speak not in the ears of a fool: for he will despise the wisdom of thy words. -Proverbs 23:9, KJV When I discovered the Other Man, I was certainly obsessed with finding out more information about him like most of us. For a brief time, I considered showing up at his doorstep and giving a … Continue reading “Not Worth The Aggravation.”
God will judge the adulterous partner…
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV (emphasis mine) A vigorous discussion has started over my exposure of the lie that “bad marriages cause infidelity.” I want to be clear on my position on these matters: It … Continue reading “God will judge the adulterous partner…”
I speak as an evangelical chaplain.
I am an evangelical, ordained minister and professional chaplain. This website tackles infidelity from those lenses. I maintain that the Bible has plenty to say on the topics of adultery, abandonment, and divorce to correct what currently is out there for faithful spouses. In launching this blog, I am attempting to provide healing words to … Continue reading “I speak as an evangelical chaplain.”
Pushback Re: “Bad Marriages Cause Infidelity” Lie Post
Today, I received a comment on my post Lie: Bad Marriages Cause Infidelity. It typifies the common “wisdom” that I have encountered from various Christian counselors, authors, and pastors when comes to marriages ravaged by adultery. I am not shocked that I got push back for unmasking this particularly destructive lie. John wrote, I am … Continue reading “Pushback Re: “Bad Marriages Cause Infidelity” Lie Post”
3 Points For Christian Counselors – From A Christian Client Perspective
During my first marriage, my (now) ex and I attended counseling sessions from a variety of individuals. Some were okay and others were downright destructive. Today’s post is about three charges I wished all those “Christian” therapists would have grasped and honored. ***I am speaking not as a therapist, but rather as a pastor and faithful spouse … Continue reading “3 Points For Christian Counselors – From A Christian Client Perspective”
Lie: Bad Marriages Cause Infidelity.
“For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. These are what defile a person….” -Matthew 15:19-20a, NIV Bad marriages cause infidelity = Lie! When Jesus talks here about sexual immorality and adultery, I do not see any long explanation about the sad state of the culture around … Continue reading “Lie: Bad Marriages Cause Infidelity.”
Actions, actions, actions!
Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right. -Proverbs 20:11, KJV Reality can be a slippery thing to grasp sometimes. Nowhere is this more evident than coming to terms with the actual person one has married upon discovery of infidelity. The temptation is to ignore the … Continue reading “Actions, actions, actions!”
PSA: You Don’t Hide “Platonic” Friendships
“This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’” -Proverbs 30:20, NIV Public Service Announcement: People Don’t Hide “Platonic” Friendships! Until one is in such a situation, one might never think about this commonsense principle. Innocent people usually act like innocent people. Guilty people … Continue reading “PSA: You Don’t Hide “Platonic” Friendships”
THOSE “Friends”
If a man is found sleeping with another man’s wife, both must die. Purge that evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, The Message (emphasis mine) Those “friends” One of the most difficult lessons I learned from discovering my first wife’s adultery and going through divorce is that it is okay–in fact, good–to have deal-breakers in friendships. … Continue reading “THOSE “Friends””