“Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach….” -I Timothy 3:2, NIV Situation: Megachurch pastor and author, Darrin Patrick, was recently removed from leadership according to a church statement from The Journey’s elders (click here). He is an author and was/is a vice president of … Continue reading “DM on Pastor Darrin Patrick’s Removal”
Author: Divorce Minister
Cheater Contempt
“Strengthen the feeble hands, steady the knees that give way; say to those with fearful hearts, “Be strong, do not fear; your God will come, he will come with vengeance; with divine retribution he will come to save you.” -Isaiah 35:3-4, NIV Cheater contempt. It is amazing what we, faithful spouses, are willing to tolerate. … Continue reading “Cheater Contempt”
On Cheater Requests To Meet Up Post-Divorce
For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? -2 Corinthians 6:14b, NIV Cheaters requesting post-divorce meetups is such a strange phenomenon to me. I know from reading others’ experiences that this is a real phenomenon. My cheater wanted to meet up after the fact (see post here). … Continue reading “On Cheater Requests To Meet Up Post-Divorce”
Be Careful What You Pray For…
“See, it is I who created the blacksmith who fans the coals into flame and forges a weapon fit for its work.” -Isaiah 54:16a, NIV Be careful what you pray for… …as God might answer your prayer and grant it to you. I prayed that God would use me. That God would make me into … Continue reading “Be Careful What You Pray For…”
A Shotgun Wasn’t There!
Just say a simple, ‘Yes, I will,’ or ‘No, I won’t.’ Anything beyond this is from the evil one. -Matthew 5:37, NLT When cheaters talk about being “trapped” in their marriage, I have little sympathy. Of course, I am willing to grant that they are experiencing “trapped” feelings. But to suggest the faithful spouse is the cause of … Continue reading “A Shotgun Wasn’t There!”
On Loving Lies
They perish because they refused to love the truth and so be saved. For this reason God sends them a powerful delusion so that they will believe the lie and so that all will be condemned who have not believed the truth but have delighted in wickedness. -2 Thessalonians 2:10b-12, NIV It is choice each of us … Continue reading “On Loving Lies”
Weeping May Last A “Night”…But Joy Is Coming! – Psalm 30:5
I will extol thee, O Lord; for thou hast lifted me up, and hast not made my foes to rejoice over me. O Lord my God, I cried unto thee, and thou hast healed me. O Lord, thou hast brought up my soul from the grave: thou hast kept me alive, that I should not … Continue reading “Weeping May Last A “Night”…But Joy Is Coming! – Psalm 30:5″
“Marriage is hard work.”
“Marriage is hard work,” says the pastor to the couple. This statement is true. Marriage does involve hard work. However, it does not paint the fullest–or healthiest–of pictures for marriage. Marriage is not all hard work. At least, that is not how I see God designing it. The Song of Songs suggests marriage is a lot of … Continue reading ““Marriage is hard work.””
Book Resource For Faithful Spouses
***POST UPDATE: BOOK NOT TO BE RELEASED NOW UNTIL MAY 10TH!*** Screen shot of book’s Amazon.com page (click here) Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life: The Chump Lady’s Survival Guide By Tracy Schorn –A FAITHFUL SPOUSE RESOURCE RECOMMENDATION— Today, Chump Lady‘s newest book was released in Kindle format (Hard copies are to be released later). … Continue reading “Book Resource For Faithful Spouses”
Cheater-speak: “I don’t want to hurt you.”
Cheater Reason NOT to Disclose Adultery and/or Infidelity Details: “I don’t want to hurt you.” This one was an especially annoying line of reasoning. It comes packaged to faithful spouse as altruism on the cheater’s part when the reality is the cheater is refusing to disclose for his/her own selfish reasons. We do not think “altruism”–i.e. … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “I don’t want to hurt you.””