You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye. -Matthew 7:5, NIV A cheater is often eager, usually, to magnify or amplify your flaws or sins–this is especially true when you both are talking with a pastor or counselor. … Continue reading “Amplifying your “sins””
Author: Divorce Minister
On Forgiveness: The Broken Vase Parable
Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been … Continue reading “On Forgiveness: The Broken Vase Parable”
Blog Pause: Traveling today
I’m heading to a pastors conference in California today. So, I may be spotty in my posts in the coming week.
Did she ever confess?
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. -I John 1:9, NIV And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. -Ephesians 4:32, NKJV Did your Cheater confess their sins? If you are like … Continue reading “Did she ever confess?”
Entitled users
Here is the deceptive way of the adulterous woman: she takes what she wants and then says, “I’ve done nothing wrong.” -Proverbs 30:20, TPT Cheaters are entitled users. They bank on the faithful spouse trusting them to continue their deceptions without consequences (like a divorce and all that comes with that). In other words, they … Continue reading “Entitled users”
Did not really get angry with her
26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath: -Ephesians 4:26, KJV My anger was not really directed at my Cheater. It was mostly directed at individuals involved conspiring with her against me. These were individuals who claimed to be Christian while getting involved in destroying my marriage. At … Continue reading “Did not really get angry with her”
“Unmet Needs” Excuse–aka Lie
The “Unmet Needs” Theory Lie: Put succinctly… …teaches faithful spouses that their deficiencies at home is what drove the adulterous spouse to cheat. The faithful spouse was not sexually available enough. The faithful spouse was not emotionally adept and engaged enough. You know the drill. I have heard in horror how even pastors operate under … Continue reading ““Unmet Needs” Excuse–aka Lie”
Heavenly gifts abound!
Whatever is good and perfect is a gift coming down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens. He never changes or casts a shifting shadow. -James 1:17, NLT Yesterday, I was thinking about the theme of forgiveness. I was struck about how Cheaters often leave the gift of … Continue reading “Heavenly gifts abound!”
Tension between justice and mercy regarding forgiveness
21 “The son said to him, ‘Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son.’ 22 “But the father said to his servants, ‘Quick! Bring the best robe and put it on him. Put a ring on his finger and sandals on his feet. -Luke 15:21-22, NIV Lately, I have … Continue reading “Tension between justice and mercy regarding forgiveness”
Cheater Apologist: Well, are you without sin?!
“She has been cheating on me these last few months. I can’t stay married to her considering all of that,” says the faithful spouse. “Don’t be so hasty. After all, are you without sin?” says the cheater apologist. Such a response from a “Christian” cheater apologist is far from helpful. Not all sins have the … Continue reading “Cheater Apologist: Well, are you without sin?!”