Then Jesus said to those Jews who believed Him, “If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed. And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.” -John 8:31-32, NKJV Much of my intense emotions and stridency surrounding my ex-wife cheating on and abandoning me came down to a … Continue reading “Freedom Through Believing The Truth”
Author: Divorce Minister
Acceptance And Forgiveness
All his sons and daughters came to comfort him, but he refused to be comforted. “No,” he said, “I will continue to mourn until I join my son in the grave.” So his father wept for him. -Genesis 37:25, NIV Much confusion surrounds the ideas of grief and forgiveness. I maintain that what is a … Continue reading “Acceptance And Forgiveness”
The Disorienting Power of the Confident Lie
“‘Now go and attack Amalek, and utterly destroy all that they have, and do not spare them. But kill both man and woman, infant and nursing child, ox and sheep, camel and donkey.’” …. Then Samuel went to Saul, and Saul said to him, “Blessed are you of the Lord! I have performed the commandment … Continue reading “The Disorienting Power of the Confident Lie”
Obviously taken him or her back?!
“‘Plead with your mother, plead: for she is not my wife, neither am I her husband: let her therefore put away her whoredoms out of her sight, and her adulteries from between her breasts….’” -Hosea 2:2, KJV Obviously, take him back?! Much “Christian” teaching places such an emphasis on keeping marriages “intact” that they insist … Continue reading “Obviously taken him or her back?!”
The Insane Church-y Pressure To Appear “Forgiving”
They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace. -Jeremiah 6:14, NIV The pressure from Christians to appear forgiving towards adulterous spouses or exes is incredible. This pressure was enshrined in my ecclesiastical trial to retain my minister’s license. They probed around … Continue reading “The Insane Church-y Pressure To Appear “Forgiving””
Book Review: THE SUBTLE POWER OF SPIRITUAL ABUSE by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen
–A Book Review– The Subtle Power of Spiritual Abuse: Recognizing and Escaping Spiritual Manipulation and False Spiritual Authority Within the Church by (Pastor) David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen Much of my work on this blog is dealing with spiritual abuse surrounding infidelity discovery and its aftermath including divorce. The literature for Christian faithful spouses on … Continue reading “Book Review: THE SUBTLE POWER OF SPIRITUAL ABUSE by David Johnson and Jeff VanVonderen”
Mine! A Toddler’s Mindset
“‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh.” -Mark 10:7-8, NIV “Mine!” A Toddler’s Mindset In Marriage One of the oddest dynamics that I have seen over and again while dealing with … Continue reading “Mine! A Toddler’s Mindset”
“What is wrong with having ‘friends’?!”
“Beware of false prophets who come disguised as harmless sheep but are really vicious wolves.” -Matthew 7:15, NLT “Aren’t I allowed to have ‘friends?!’” -Cheater I think this is one of the most dangerous tools at the disposal of cheaters. It effectively puts the faithful spouse on the defensive as he or she tries to … Continue reading ““What is wrong with having ‘friends’?!””
He Came Down For You, Too!
“Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends. Ye are my friends, if ye do whatsoever I command you. Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have … Continue reading “He Came Down For You, Too!”
An Ungodly Legacy–Talking About Mark Driscoll On Fatherhood
Pastor Mark Driscoll is speaking about Job as a model for fatherhood. In particular, he is commenting about praying and sacrificing on behalf of his children as mentioned in Job 1:5– “He wasn’t a father who just looked at his twenty year old daughter who was dating the wrong guy and said, ‘Well, you’re an … Continue reading “An Ungodly Legacy–Talking About Mark Driscoll On Fatherhood”