If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? -I John 4:20, NKJV What bothers–and astounds–me is how typical infidelity or adultery is treated as a symptom or side-issue … Continue reading “Pastors, Why Not Treat Adultery As Abuse?”
Author: Divorce Minister
Played The Whore…No More?
Thou hast played the whore also with the Assyrians, because thou wast unsatiable; yea, thou hast played the harlot with them, and yet couldest not be satisfied. – Ezekiel 16:28, KJV (Emphasis Mine) Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral … Continue reading “Played The Whore…No More?”
The Broken Vase Parable
Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been … Continue reading “The Broken Vase Parable”
Why We Are So “Twitchy”
“Why do the wicked prosper, growing old and powerful?” -Job 21:7, NLT Cheaters sometimes–or even often–seem so happy and carefree. This includes even when their cheating ways have been uncovered by the victims–i.e. the faithful spouses. On the other hand, faithful spouses often look depressed, anxious, and angry following infidelity discovery. They’re “twitchy.” In this post, I … Continue reading “Why We Are So “Twitchy””
The Gospel Coalition (TGC) Controversies As Voiced By Nate Sparks
My introduction to The Gospel Coalition (TGC) took place mostly while I was in seminary at Yale. I was definitely influenced by the leading members of this group including Piper and Keller, in particular. However, as I have matured as a Christian and walked through the difficult valleys of adultery discovery and divorce, I am … Continue reading “The Gospel Coalition (TGC) Controversies As Voiced By Nate Sparks”
Being A Divorcee In Christian Community
For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another! -Galatians 5:14-15, NKJV It hard to be divorced and live in the evangelical, Christian community. Because “The Shared Responsibility Lie” is … Continue reading “Being A Divorcee In Christian Community”
Is Telling Unforgiving?
A third time he asked him, “Simon son of John, do you love me?” Peter was hurt that Jesus asked the question a third time. He said, “Lord, you know everything. You know that I love you.” Jesus said, “Then feed my sheep.” -John 21:17, NIV Is it unforgiving to tell people that your marriage … Continue reading “Is Telling Unforgiving?”
Rooted And Unmoving
That he would grant you, according to the riches of his glory, to be strengthened with might by his Spirit in the inner man; That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love, May be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, … Continue reading “Rooted And Unmoving”
That Which Shall Never Be Mentioned Again–AKA The Affair
“This is what the Lord says: Because of what you have done, I will cause your own household to rebel against you. I will give your wives to another man before your very eyes, and he will go to bed with them in public view.” … Then David confessed to Nathan, “I have sinned against … Continue reading “That Which Shall Never Be Mentioned Again–AKA The Affair”
When we are talking months, years, or even decades of cheating…
Dear friends, if we deliberately continue sinning after we have received knowledge of the truth, there is no longer any sacrifice that will cover these sins. -Hebrews 10:26, NLT The longer someone has led a double-life of cheating, the less likely they will be able to repent and change. What sacrifice remains to cover that … Continue reading “When we are talking months, years, or even decades of cheating…”