Author: Divorce Minister

Is Remarriage an Option for an Adulterous Spouse?

My post yesterday has raised questions about remarriage for the adulterous spouse and pool of divorced potential mates for divorced faithful spouses (see comments on this post here). I am going to summarize those questions into this one question: Is Remarriage an Option for an Adulterous Spouse? First, this statement only makes sense asking a … Continue reading “Is Remarriage an Option for an Adulterous Spouse?”

Mailbag: If you have wronged someone you should seek to make amends to that person?

Another comment I am answering for today’s post: DM, Thank you for your encouragement. It has given me strength along with other Christ centered people around me to see my X Husband for who he really is. So 14 months post d’Day and my Ex stated to me today that he has moved on (with … Continue reading “Mailbag: If you have wronged someone you should seek to make amends to that person?”

The Awful Truth

Wounds from a friend can be trusted,     but an enemy multiplies kisses. -Proverbs 27:6, NIV Knowing the truth is freeing. But this is often denied faithful spouses as their world is caved in by the terrors of trickling truth and horrors of betrayals both large and small. I can still vividly remember feeling the shock. … Continue reading “The Awful Truth”

Mailbag: Is withholding sex from your spouse sexual immorality?

In a comment on the blog, OnlyEleven wrote, Is withholding sex from your spouse sexual immorality and therefore grounds for divorce? 3 of the 4 years of marriage have been sexless…she had sex long enough to get pg and have a much wanted baby, and has refused sex ever since. She refuses to even share … Continue reading “Mailbag: Is withholding sex from your spouse sexual immorality?”

Godly Sorrow And Advice

Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. – 2 Cor. 7:10, NIV When you see the fruit of advice destroying someone or yourself, you are seeing something bringing death as this verse tells us. This is not from God. God is not one who came … Continue reading “Godly Sorrow And Advice”

“It Takes Two To Tango”

“It Takes Two To Tango” I wonder how many here heard this faux wisdom following the discovery of adultery and subsequent divorce. It really is just another iteration of “The Shared Responsibility Lie.” And it comes across as “wise” while being incredible hurtful to someone who has just survived adultery (aka soul rape). It is hurtful for … Continue reading ““It Takes Two To Tango””

Happy Valentine’s Day, God’s Beloveds!

Scars Are Our Badges Of Beauty On this Valentine’s Day, I wanted to share a sermon God has used to encourage my soul. It is by a very prophetic and wise man of God. His name is Bob Sorge. He knows the depths of suffering and what it means to wait upon the Lord. I … Continue reading “Happy Valentine’s Day, God’s Beloveds!”

Pre-Pigsty Prodigal or Post-Pigsty Prodigal…Continued

More Lessons from “The Parable of the Prodigal Son” My post yesterday drew lessons from “The Parable of the Prodigal Son” found in Luke 15:11-32 regarding discerning whether or not one’s adulterous spouse is exhibiting the behavior exhibited by the prodigal son post-pigsty (click here to view post). This post is a continuation of that … Continue reading “Pre-Pigsty Prodigal or Post-Pigsty Prodigal…Continued”

Pre-Pigsty Prodigal OR Post-Pigsty Prodigal?

Lessons from “The Parable of the Prodigal Son” In Luke 15:11-32, we have the famous parable about the prodigal son. It is a story with two sons and a father who welcomes the younger son back after he wasted his inheritance on “wild living” (Luke 15:13b, NIV). This story lives in our pop culture when … Continue reading “Pre-Pigsty Prodigal OR Post-Pigsty Prodigal?”