Vulnerable In Grief

So be careful. If you are thinking, “Oh, I would never behave like that”—let this be a warning to you. For you too may fall into sin. But remember this—the wrong desires that come into your life aren’t anything new and different. Many others have faced exactly the same problems before you. And no temptation … Continue reading “Vulnerable In Grief”

What does forgiveness look like when your adulterous (ex) spouse is unrepentant?

Answering the mail today: “What does forgiveness (acceptance) look like when your adulterous spouse or ex-spouse is unrepentant?  (I’m speaking of this as a person divorced from a cheating ex-wife who never admitted the affair was wrong or asked for my forgiveness.. We have […] children in common, so aside from getting along for the … Continue reading “What does forgiveness look like when your adulterous (ex) spouse is unrepentant?”

Choosing Divorce As Act Of Love

God is love. – I John 4:16b, NIV I gave faithless Israel her certificate of divorce and sent her away because of all her adulteries. Yet I saw that her unfaithful sister Judah had no fear; she also went out and committed adultery. – Jeremiah 3:8, NIV Can Choosing Divorce Ever Be the Most Loving … Continue reading “Choosing Divorce As Act Of Love”

Four Months: 29,000+ Views and Visitors From Over 60 Different Countries

DIVORCE MINISTER: LOOKING BACK & LOOKING FORWARD In July 2014, I dipped my toe in the water by starting a blog on a free blogging site. It was just going to be a repository for my thoughts on adultery and divorce. Maybe a few of my friends and family would humor me and read my … Continue reading “Four Months: 29,000+ Views and Visitors From Over 60 Different Countries”

The Affair As “A Cry For Help”

When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives … Continue reading “The Affair As “A Cry For Help””

Spiritual Abuse To Forbid Divorce

“Spiritual abuse occurs when our rightful spiritual freedom is taken away by people we regard as spiritual authorities.” –Taken from “Lesson 4: Healing of Spiritual Abuse,” School of Healing Prayer: Level II (workbook), Francis and Judith MacNutt Training Center, pp30. If divorce is not always sin as is clear in Scripture (e.g. Matthew 1:19, 5:32, 19:9, and … Continue reading “Spiritual Abuse To Forbid Divorce”

Beware of Bias

Since we cannot hold a perspective from nowhere and thereby be completely objective, we need to become aware of potential biases and perspectives in discerning counsel from various individuals. We all have a world view, which has been shaped by our experiences and cultures. Biases born from our worldview are neither good nor bad in … Continue reading “Beware of Bias”

Domestic Abuse As Grounds For Divorce?

Katy commented on “Resources:” Hi I found your blog from the CL blog – I love to see evangelicals standing firm and pushing back on the “all divorce is sin” myth that pervades the Body of Christ these days. Just wondering if you also see other forms of domestic abuse as grounds for divorce, not … Continue reading “Domestic Abuse As Grounds For Divorce?”

But I Want To Stay Married!

At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship and said: “Naked I came from my mother’s womb,     and naked I will depart. The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away;     may the name of the Lord be praised.” -Job 1:20-21, NIV Shame … Continue reading “But I Want To Stay Married!”