Assumption: Divorced Christians have a moral imperative to remain open to remarrying their former spouse regardless of circumstances of the divorce until that former spouse remarries since they are called to emulate God’s character of being the Great Reconciler (II Corinthians 5:18). False. God is holy and jealous. He is the same in both … Continue reading “The Great Reconciler False Assumption”
Author: Divorce Minister
Get Tested & Be Discerning, Please!
~~~ One of the most humbling things that I was forced to do in light of my ex’s infidelity was to go to a clinic to be tested for STDs. It was humiliating. I was there due to my ex’s moral failures and lies. A medical professional advised me to get tested. I knew my … Continue reading “Get Tested & Be Discerning, Please!”
Buffet of Bad Options
“‘If a man is found lying with a married woman, then both of them shall die, the man who lay with the woman, and the woman; thus you shall purge the evil from Israel.” -Deuteronomy 22:22, NASB. While much is made of God’s proclamation of hating divorce in Malachi 2:16, I fear that many … Continue reading “Buffet of Bad Options”
Adultery Is Downright Demonic!
“You are of your father the devil, and you want to do the desires of your father. He was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth because there is no truth in him. Whenever he speaks a lie, he speaks from his own nature, for he is a liar and the father of lies.” – John 8:44, NASB. If … Continue reading “Adultery Is Downright Demonic!”
Faithful Spouses And Letting Go of False Guilt
So, you find yourself stuck. You know in your head that you did not cause your spouse’s infidelity… But…and it is a BIG BUT… You still feel guilty. You wonder if you could have prevented the adultery by doing something(s) better. You have a bad case of the “if only’s” and possibly you still FEEL … Continue reading “Faithful Spouses And Letting Go of False Guilt”
Pondering Point: Divorce and Adultery
Pondering Point: Divorce and Adultery Why is divorcing after adultery treated as more shameful in some Christian communities than actually committing adultery? This is not Biblical (see Matthew 19).
Character and Adultery
“So we make it our goal to please him, whether we are at home in the body or away from it. For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, that each one may receive what is due him for the things done while in the body, whether good or bad.” -2 Corinthians … Continue reading “Character and Adultery”
Divorce is not sin.
False Assumption: Divorce is sin. Where to begin? I think I will begin with Jesus’ words about the Pharisees and Scribes. He says in Matthew 23:4 about them: “For they bind heavy burdens, hard to bear, and lay them on men’s shoulders; but they themselves will not move them with one of their fingers” (NKJV). … Continue reading “Divorce is not sin.”
Adultery Is Soul Rape.
“Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take away the members of Christ and make them members of a prostitute? May it never be! Or do you not know that the one who joins himself to a prostitute is one body with her? For He says, ‘The two … Continue reading “Adultery Is Soul Rape.”
Welcome To Divorce Minister
Not in a million years did I imagine that I would be hit with the dual freight train of my former spouse’s infidelities and divorce of me.Yet that is now part of my story.My scars.Witnesses of my survival.Scars that may produce healing as scars are wont to do for those who follow in the Good … Continue reading “Welcome To Divorce Minister”