“Failures are events, not persons.” -Anonymous psychologist (emphasis mine) “Even if my father and mother abandon me, the Lord will hold me close.” -Psalm 27:10, NLT These two quotes ministered greatly to my ravaged soul during the aftermath of discovering adultery and getting divorced. The power of the statements are tied to the lies they address. When … Continue reading “God Will Not Reject You”
Author: Divorce Minister
When do I forgive?
I understand. I guess what I’m asking is: When do I forgive? As time moves on, as it apparently has in your case, when do we forgive and move on? It seems the sin will never be acknowledged. Or, in other cases, it can not be … in the case of death of the offender, … Continue reading “When do I forgive?”
“Emotional Affairs” and Dr. Phil
After I learned of my former spouse’s infidelity, I discovered these old videos from a Dr. Phil session on emotional affairs aired in 2009. Last night, I watched them again with Mrs. DM, and we both agreed they are worth posting on the blog. While I do not endorse everything Dr. Phil writes and says, … Continue reading ““Emotional Affairs” and Dr. Phil”
Does God Give Permission To Sin?
Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be … Continue reading “Does God Give Permission To Sin?”
When Pastors Are Caught…***UPDATE***
***UPDATE*** this is a continuation of the post entitled “When Pastors Are Caught…” Since I wrote my last post on the situation at Quest Community Church, developments have occurred. Both pastors were fired. Official statement here. Below is the pertinent sentence: This past Thursday, September 11, after the deliberation and counsel of the Christian & … Continue reading “When Pastors Are Caught…***UPDATE***”
The Doormat Is NOT the High Ground
I wrote to you in my letter not to associate with sexually immoral people— not at all meaning the people of this world who are immoral, or the greedy and swindlers, or idolaters. In that case you would have to leave this world. But now I am writing to you that you must not associate … Continue reading “The Doormat Is NOT the High Ground”
You Are Precious To God
But now, God’s Message, the God who made you in the first place, Jacob, the One who got you started, Israel: “Don’t be afraid, I’ve redeemed you. I’ve called your name. You’re mine. When you’re in over your head, I’ll be there with you. When you’re in rough waters, you will not go down. When … Continue reading “You Are Precious To God”
Don’t Buy The Hype
Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. – Ephesians 5:11, ESV Part of the mission at Divorce Minister is to follow this Biblical command. I aim to expose deeds of darkness, especially as it comes to adultery and any associated spiritual abuse. This is important work as light brings … Continue reading “Don’t Buy The Hype”
God Hates Marital Unfaithfulness
For I hate divorce, says the Lord, the God of Israel, and covering one’s garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So take heed to yourselves and do not be faithless. – Malachi 2:16, NRSV “I hate divorce,” says the God of Israel. God-of-the-Angel-Armies says, “I hate the violent dismembering of the ‘one flesh’ of … Continue reading “God Hates Marital Unfaithfulness”
What Did You Contribute?
Were you ever asked that question? What did you contribute? To your divorce? To the affair? Maybe it came from your cheater’s own mouth? Maybe it came from a pastor? Maybe it came from family? Maybe it came from the marriage counselor? My intention is not to cause further trauma on this website. However, I suspect … Continue reading “What Did You Contribute?”