Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. -Proverbs 27:6, KJV Being a great performer does not necessarily mean one is destined to become a Cheater, yet such skills can be employed to such ends. I am amazed at those people who have the skill of performing on … Continue reading “Great Stage Presence”
Author: Divorce Minister
Frustrating Meet
*Me under 350kg/771lbs on my third attempt This past weekend I competed in another powerlifting meet down in Iowa. I bombed out missing all three of my attempts. It was frustrating. Yet I know I will learn from this experience and get better. Failure is often a better teacher than success. It still sucks, though. … Continue reading “Frustrating Meet”
Evil is real!
Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. -I Peter 5:8, NIV I am convinced another dynamic is at play with marital infidelity than just the natural. This does not mean I give cheaters a pass. They are still fully responsible for … Continue reading “Evil is real!”
Manipulative Admission
“Sure, I had an emotional affair. But it was just a cry for help,” says Cheater. Sadly, this admission around some carnal Christians will lead to questions about the faithful spouse’s performance as a husband or wife: Why did she “have to” have an emotional affair?! I bet you can see where such questioning is … Continue reading “Manipulative Admission”
On “Sin-Leveling”
If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. -I John 1:8, NIV “Sin-Leveling” is an argument that trades on fallacious reasoning. The argument goes that all sin is equal or on the same “level.” Your lie about how how much you spent on your last trip to … Continue reading “On “Sin-Leveling””
Marriage Miracles More Sexy
For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. … A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones. A time to embrace and a time to turn away. -Ecclesiastes 3:1,5, NLT Purveying marriage miracles is more sexy than facing natural consequences. I feel this with this ministry. It … Continue reading “Marriage Miracles More Sexy”
Usually so much worse!
So, your Cheater cops to an “emotional affair” after you discovered compromising messages and confronted them. Are you sure that’s all it was?! I know we want to believe that was all it was. That was where I was at in my first marriage for a long time. I did not want to believe it … Continue reading “Usually so much worse!”
Cheater Smugness
Stone is heavy and sand a burden, but a fool’s provocation is heavier than both. -Proverbs 27:3, NIV Pride is the primary sin of Cheaters, in my opinion. That is why repentance requires humility. It is the opposite of what got them into the mess they created. Cheaters need to humbly approach their victims if … Continue reading “Cheater Smugness”
Bad Enough FOR YOU!
Your Cheater does not need to be a total monster in order to be bad for you. I suspect most Cheaters (if not all) have some “redeeming” qualities about themselves. If they didn’t, we probably never would have married them in the first place. They are mix–like all of us–of good and bad traits. But … Continue reading “Bad Enough FOR YOU!”
Cheater Tantrum Over Wearing Wedding Ring
“How dare you insist I wear my wedding ring!” -Petulant Cheater A cheater may take off her ring in order to avoid the constant reminder of her marriage vows. This symbolic act speaks volumes. There is a reason we exchange rings in marriage ceremonies. The symbol is indicative of the vows exchanged between the couple … Continue reading “Cheater Tantrum Over Wearing Wedding Ring”