8 Then I saw that for all the causes for which backsliding Israel had committed adultery, I had put her away and given her a certificate of divorce…. -Jeremiah 3:8a, NKJV Now, over a decade ago, I started this ministry for people dealing with infidelity abuse. One might think taking adultery seriously would be uncontroversial of … Continue reading ““Taking Adultery Seriously” Still”
Author: Divorce Minister
Done with overly “religious”
“Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs which indeed appear beautiful outwardly, but inside are full of dead men’s bones and all uncleanness.” -Matthew 23:27, NKJV When I started dating again, I decided I did not want an overtly religious partner. I wanted someone who was authentically themselves. My last marriage … Continue reading “Done with overly “religious””
Hardened their hearts
But Pharaoh hardened his heart at this time also; neither would he let the people go. -Exodus 8:32, NKJV I do not know if it is demonic or simply human nature to harden one’s heart to God’s ways. Here in the story of the Exodus, it seems simply a human function. Some people will harden their … Continue reading “Hardened their hearts”
Grateful for what I did not want
Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good. His love endures forever. -Psalm 136:1, NIV Naively, I thought I’d be a “miracle story” until the end of my first marriage. That is probably why it hit so hard when the divorce was finalized. I never wanted the divorce. If left to my own devices, I probably … Continue reading “Grateful for what I did not want”
Another loss – say the thing!
Deep in my psyche must be a distaste for the consumer-driven app world of dating–that’s what my dream life brought up this past night. I am a happily married man who does not want all the drama of sorting through girlfriend drama. It might be my introvert nature. However, the thought of entering that world … Continue reading “Another loss – say the thing!”
Another Thanksgiving!
In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. -I Thessalonians 5:18, KJV Happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate! I recognize that this can be a difficult time for many reasons. It can bring up feelings of loss or old difficult memories. One Thanksgiving Eve many years … Continue reading “Another Thanksgiving!”
Burns, burns, burns.
For we know him who said, “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” and again, “The Lord will judge his people.” It is a dreadful thing to fall into the hands of the living God. -Hebrews 10:30-31, NIV Cheaters may hate hearing God’s Word, because it convicts them of their sins. They hate the reminder of the … Continue reading “Burns, burns, burns.”
Took Effort!
She hides and waits like a robber, eager to make more men unfaithful. -Proverbs 23:28, NLT For those inclined to believe a cheater is a victim of his or her circumstances, it is worth noting the effort necessary to cover up the infidelity. In fact, I think the aftermath of the cheating is actually the … Continue reading “Took Effort!”
Freedom from same old arguments
Freedom From Same Old Arguments One of the benefits of divorcing your Cheater is freedom from the same old arguments. You no longer have to engage in the inane arguments you’ve been having with Cheater over the years. It is over. Maybe they have been trying to dominate you and get you to agree with … Continue reading “Freedom from same old arguments”
Spiritual Discipline of Giving Thanks
Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. -I Thessalonians 5:18, NLT Why would the author of I Thessalonians command us to be thankful unless this was something we have to choose to do? The temptation is to allow life’s circumstances to dictate the spiritual climate of our … Continue reading “Spiritual Discipline of Giving Thanks”