“The people of Nineveh will stand up against this generation on judgment day and condemn it, for they repented of their sins at the preaching of Jonah. Now someone greater than Jonah is here–but you refuse to repent.” -Matthew 12:41, NLT Jesus spoke these words to some religious folk in his day. Does repentance seem … Continue reading “Nineveh and God’s Forgiveness”
Author: Divorce Minister
Hope Quote
I ran across this quote attributed to Augustine the other day as I was reading a book about dealing with serial bullies (Free Us From Bullying: Real Solutions Beyond Being Nice by Paul Coughlin). This quote struck me as very applicable to situations dealing with a cheater. These two things are good and “beautiful daughters” … Continue reading “Hope Quote”
Nuking the family
But a man who commits adultery has no sense; whoever does so destroys himself. -Proverbs 6:32, NIV Cheaters nuke their own family. For the thrill of forbidden sex, these disordered characters are willing to sacrifice everything. They place their pleasure over the well-being of their spouse and children. What is important to them is their own … Continue reading “Nuking the family”
Divorce free from shame
“I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.” -Matthew 19:9, NIV I do not see a time limit set on these words. The exemption is there for anyone who has a spouse that engaged in sexually unfaithful behavior. That is what I see in … Continue reading “Divorce free from shame”
Rejected Ones Club
Jesus is “‘the stone you builders rejected, which has become the cornerstone.’ Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.” -Acts 4:11-12, NIV How is Jesus identified by the Apostle Peter on Pentecost? He is The Rejected One. This … Continue reading “Rejected Ones Club”
Heavy, heavy foolishness
Carrying a log across your shoulders while you’re hefting a boulder with your arms Is nothing compared to the burden of putting up with a fool. -Proverbs 27:3, MSG You are in this situation because your Cheater stole from you what did not belong to them to give away. Sadly, this does not stop Cheaters … Continue reading “Heavy, heavy foolishness”
Book Review: FORGIVENESS AFTER TRAUMA by Susannah Griffith
“In the Bible, lament takes up more space than teaching on forgiveness…. Don’t talk to me about forgiveness unless you’ve made space for me to lament the full story–the messy parts, the painful parts, the parts I wish I could forget, even the parts I’m grateful for. Don’t talk to me ab out forgiveness until … Continue reading “Book Review: FORGIVENESS AFTER TRAUMA by Susannah Griffith”
Affair Partner not a marriage problem?!
“He has nothing to do with our marriage problems. You know that!” -Caught Cheater If your cheater is responding with some version of this, your marriage is over. The cheater is refusing to face the fact that adultery is truly a MAJOR marriage problem. You have nothing to work with here. The cheater is firmly … Continue reading “Affair Partner not a marriage problem?!”
Find a winner and ditch the loser
Today wasn’t my day at the meet. I missed each of three attempts at 335kgs (738lbs). But I was REALLY close to completing the lift on my third attempt. It happens in this sport. That said, my amazing wife packed up our kiddo and exchange student to drive down three and half hours to see … Continue reading “Find a winner and ditch the loser”
Probably less than half of it
“Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’” -Matthew 7:23, NIV One of the hardest things about moving on is accepting that you will probably know less than half of what actually happened. This gap of information–whatever the percentage–can keep faithful spouses stuck. Please do not let it … Continue reading “Probably less than half of it”