So the Lord blessed Job in the second half of his life even more than in the beginning. -Job 42:12a, NLT One of the biggest tragedies is the utter waste Cheaters create through their dastardly discard of us, faithful spouses. Just when we might be able to taste the fruit of sacrifice, Cheaters pull out the rug … Continue reading “Tragedy and Gratitude”
Author: Divorce Minister
“Tell your family and friends to stop…”
“Tell your family and friends to stop telling [Cheater] to not divorce you,” says Cheater Supporter. My divorce happened because my Cheater chose it.* At the time, I was trying to dissuade her from what I considered an sinful divorce on her part. While I was still wishing to avoid divorce, a supporter of my … Continue reading ““Tell your family and friends to stop…””
All about “upper hand”
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. -Ephesians 5:21, NIV I am convinced some cheaters treat marriage issues as power struggles. They refuse to submit to their spouse as they find it offensive to actually “lose” in any way. To them, the idea of humbling themselves and truly repenting is repulsive. This is why … Continue reading “All about “upper hand””
Good intentions not enough
“The road to Hell is paved… …with good intentions.” -A proverb This saying is a wise one to remember when dealing with the aftermath that comes following infidelity discovery. It applies both to the actual cheater and to those who profess they are only giving “care.” “I never intended to hurt you.” – Cheater … Continue reading “Good intentions not enough”
Guys, do NOT pursue!!!
26 Dear friends, if we deliberately continue sinning after we have received knowledge of the truth, there is no longer any sacrifice that will cover these sins. 27 There is only the terrible expectation of God’s judgment and the raging fire that will consume his enemies. -Hebrews 10:26-27, NLT Guys, do NOT pursue your Cheater! I know this … Continue reading “Guys, do NOT pursue!!!”
He is a Good Father!
Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine… -Ephesians 3:20a, NIV God has solutions that we cannot imagine. They are good solutions as He is a good God. What happens might not be what we originally wanted, but God is good and will see you through. I … Continue reading “He is a Good Father!”
Strange but still red flag
Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up. -Proverbs 12:25, NIV Some TV Sit-Coms are just selfish stories about mean people using other people. Looking back on my first marriage, I think this was a red flag I discounted. My ex enjoyed the type of Sit-Coms where people used people for … Continue reading “Strange but still red flag”
PSA: A partial truth still equals a lie.
Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” – Genesis 3:1, NIV Public Service Announcement (PSA): A partial truth is still a lie. Some of the greatest … Continue reading “PSA: A partial truth still equals a lie.”
Pharisee or Enemy? Categories matter.
And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two. -Matthew 5:41, NKJV In the same way, on the outside you appear to people as righteous but on the inside you are full of hypocrisy and wickedness. -Matthew 23:28, NIV When dealing with a “Christian” cheater, another level of complexity is placed on Christians … Continue reading “Pharisee or Enemy? Categories matter.”
Not a tear wasted
You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book. -Psalm 56:8, NLT Not a tear wasted. God is tender towards those He loves. And He loves you, dear Faithful Spouse. Not only does He see each tear, He draws close … Continue reading “Not a tear wasted”