I am convinced adultery is always abusive. Always. You cannot cheat on a spouse without abusing their trust minimally. Plus, I have yet to discover a story involving adultery where a period of deception did not take place–however, brief. In addition to that, I believe based on my reading of Scripture that adultery is soul … Continue reading “Excuse for abuse? No. None.”
Author: Divorce Minister
Alluring Premature Forgiveness
…and if you see him going the wrong direction, cry out and correct him. If there is true repentance on his part, forgive him. -Luke 17:3, TPT What I find interesting is how much advice is given to faithful spouses about forgiveness as if this is the hardest part–convincing faithful spouses of the importance of … Continue reading “Alluring Premature Forgiveness”
Pick vulnerable time
Cheaters are known to blow up the home life during a time of vulnerability for the faithful partner. This might be during a time of financial vulnerability where you are trying to launch your career or were a stay at home parent for a long time. This might come when you are ill or even … Continue reading “Pick vulnerable time”
Hates “workers of iniquity?!”
5 The boastful shall not stand in Your sight; You hate all workers of iniquity. 6 You shall destroy those who speak falsehood; The Lord abhors the bloodthirsty and deceitful man. -Psalm 5:5-6, NKJV “Hate” is a strong word. Yet this is the word the Psalmist uses to describe how God feels about “ALL” who work wickedness. The picture in these verses … Continue reading “Hates “workers of iniquity?!””
Cheater-Speak: “You’ve deceived your closest family and friends.”
“You’ve deceived your closest friends and family into thinking you’re a good person,” says Cheater. The irony of such a statement is how the Cheater is actually the one who has done this, NOT the faithful spouse! They have played their cards close to their vest. Cheated and lied for months or years including to … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “You’ve deceived your closest family and friends.””
Way when no way
See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. -Isaiah 43:19, NIV Sometimes, you may feel like there is no way out of your circumstances. It looks bleak. I know I felt that way. My … Continue reading “Way when no way”
Burming truth
All who do evil hate the light and refuse to go near it for fear their sins will be exposed. -John 3:20, NLT If a cheater has anything of a conscience left, they will be in extreme pain when their actions are exposed for the sin and evil they are. Cheaters committed to their sin … Continue reading “Burming truth”
Protest feelings
I remember vividly driving down one specific stretch of I-35 years ago in complete protest to what was happening. The feelings were surreal! Divorce wasn’t something that was to happen to me! I could not believe this was happening. And I SOOOO wanted the pain of it all to end. It hurt so bad. I … Continue reading “Protest feelings”
Sanctimonious Bovine Scat!
“I feel like I have to keep divorce as an option or I am making my marriage an idol,” says duplicitous Cheater. “God wants me to be happy,” says self-deceived Cheater. Sanctimonious Bovine Scat! The invoking of religion in an attempt to “justify” their cheating is especially awful, in my opinion. It messes with one’s … Continue reading “Sanctimonious Bovine Scat!”
Mine, mine, mine!
“No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” -Matthew 6:24, NIV “How dare you invade MY privacy?!” “How dare you steal MY money?!” “How dare you take MY … Continue reading “Mine, mine, mine!”