“I don’t know who I am,” says Cheater. This statement is often accompanied by some sort of statement regarding being “trapped” in the marriage. They view the faithful spouse and the marriage as an obstacle to self discovery. The funny thing about this statement is how the Cheater is actually telling on herself. By saying … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I don’t know who I am.””
Not “an easy way out”
Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck from your eye’; and look, a plank is in your own eye? -Matthew 7:4, NKJV A faithful spouse choosing to divorce a cheater is not taking the “easy way out!” It is disgusting that a follower of Christ would ever suggest such a thing. They … Continue reading “Not “an easy way out””
That pursuit advice is trash.
“I know she cheated. But what you need to do is pursue her like Christ did His Bride, the Church,” says naive Christian leader. The pursuit advice is trash. In my opinion, the last thing a narcissistic adulteress needs is more suitors fawning over her. She does not need to be treated as the prize … Continue reading “That pursuit advice is trash.”
Symptom…OF EVIL IN THE HEART!
21 For from within, out of a person’s heart, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, 22 adultery, greed, wickedness, deceit, lustful desires, envy, slander, pride, and foolishness. -Mark 7:21-22, NLT “Experts” sometimes suggest treating cheating as a symptom of problems in the marriage. That isn’t biblical. Jesus is crystal clear where adultery originates: The heart of the … Continue reading “Symptom…OF EVIL IN THE HEART!”
They minimize.
“She’s just a friend.” “It was only one kiss.” “I was drunk; it doesn’t mean anything.” Cheaters minimize. It is what they do. In fact, I think that is what we all do as sinners to some extent. We struggle to face the reality of our sins. The Enemy often uses this strategy to keep … Continue reading “They minimize.”
Another Revenge Country Song
Recently, I discovered this gem of a song, “He Set Her Off.” While I do not advocate the behavior outlined in this song, I do find it an oddly satisfying listen. Enjoy!
Unexpected Confessions
“You have more biblical reason to divorce me,” says (cheating) partner as mask slips. Sometimes, you might get an unexpected confession from your Cheater. The mask occasionally slips. How can it not at some point? It has to be exhausting keeping up their house of lies. Gaslighting takes some real effort. Double lives don’t “just … Continue reading “Unexpected Confessions”
Forbidden Fruit
So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree desirable to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate. She also gave to her husband with her, and he ate. -Genesis 3:6, NKJV Forbidden Fruit I think part of the thrill Cheaters get from cheating is the forbidden … Continue reading “Forbidden Fruit”
“Taking Adultery Seriously” Still
8 Then I saw that for all the causes for which backsliding Israel had committed adultery, I had put her away and given her a certificate of divorce…. -Jeremiah 3:8a, NKJV Now, over a decade ago, I started this ministry for people dealing with infidelity abuse. One might think taking adultery seriously would be uncontroversial of … Continue reading ““Taking Adultery Seriously” Still”
Done with overly “religious”
“Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs which indeed appear beautiful outwardly, but inside are full of dead men’s bones and all uncleanness.” -Matthew 23:27, NKJV When I started dating again, I decided I did not want an overtly religious partner. I wanted someone who was authentically themselves. My last marriage … Continue reading “Done with overly “religious””