25 To the faithful you show yourself faithful; to those with integrity you show integrity. 26 To the pure you show yourself pure, but to the crooked you show yourself shrewd. 27 You rescue the humble, but you humiliate the proud. -Psalm 18:25-27, NLT God is faithful. And God is not fooled by the behavior of Cheaters. … Continue reading “Faithful to the faithful”
Golden Rule: Telling Other Partner
Do to others as you would like them to do to you. -Luke 6:31, NLT If you know someone is cheating on their spouse, do you tell the faithful spouse? In a word: YES!!! Now, that does not mean you have to tell them immediately. However, I figure the Golden Rule applies here. Would you … Continue reading “Golden Rule: Telling Other Partner”
Cheater-Speak: “I never intended to hurt you.”
“I never intended to hurt you,” says Cheater. “Whatever. That does not excuse you for horribly sinning against me,” replies Faithful Spouse. Cheaters professing golden intentions are trying to minimize what they did. It is a move to sanitize their image. They do not want to think or others to think that they are that … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I never intended to hurt you.””
Cheater-Speak: “My toxic shame”
“Talking about it just triggers my toxic shame. I can’t face what I did.” -Cheater This is a real conundrum for a faithful spouse. It is hard to heal when you do not have some of the basic facts and your spouse is refusing to help on that number citing “toxic shame.” The “toxic shame” … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “My toxic shame””
DM is traveling… blog postings might be spotty
DM is traveling for a bit… blog posts may be spotty!
Yes, demonic.
Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour. -I Peter 5:8, NKJV When I speak of the demonic and cheating, I want to be clear. I do NOT believe or support the idea of a cheater being a mere victim of the demonic. … Continue reading “Yes, demonic.”
Happy New Year, 2025!
Happy New Year, 2025! I hope and pray this new year brings your peace and prosperity. May you experience the transformation of glory to glory in this coming year! This past year has been a big year for the Divorce Minister ministry. I launched my first in person support group writing the curriculum and learning … Continue reading “Happy New Year, 2025!”
Misplaced Concern
“I really hope he didn’t feel uncomfortable with anything,” says Cheater. “What about my comfort with how things are? Why are you more concerned about him than me, your husband?” says faithful spouse. Being a good host is one thing. Taking a particular guest’s opinion and comfort into consideration OVER your spouse’s is another thing. … Continue reading “Misplaced Concern”
The sun will shine on you, again!
Those who trust in the Lord are as secure as Mount Zion; they will not be defeated but will endure forever. -Psalm 125:1, NLT The sun will shine on you, again! I am convinced of this. The darkness of this awful season will not last forever–even if it feels otherwise right now. Things can and do get better sans … Continue reading “The sun will shine on you, again!”
Done to provoke
Just because your Cheater attends marriage counseling does NOT mean they really want to work on themselves and the marriage. They might be there to provoke you with a witness. Then they can label you crazy or angry as “justification” for their discard. Cheaters are not above using therapy or pastoral counseling to manage their … Continue reading “Done to provoke”