Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine… -Ephesians 3:20a, NIV God has solutions that we cannot imagine. They are good solutions as He is a good God. What happens might not be what we originally wanted, but God is good and will see you through. I … Continue reading “He is a Good Father!”
Strange but still red flag
Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up. -Proverbs 12:25, NIV Some TV Sit-Coms are just selfish stories about mean people using other people. Looking back on my first marriage, I think this was a red flag I discounted. My ex enjoyed the type of Sit-Coms where people used people for … Continue reading “Strange but still red flag”
PSA: A partial truth still equals a lie.
Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” – Genesis 3:1, NIV Public Service Announcement (PSA): A partial truth is still a lie. Some of the greatest … Continue reading “PSA: A partial truth still equals a lie.”
Pharisee or Enemy? Categories matter.
And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two. -Matthew 5:41, NKJV In the same way, on the outside you appear to people as righteous but on the inside you are full of hypocrisy and wickedness. -Matthew 23:28, NIV When dealing with a “Christian” cheater, another level of complexity is placed on Christians … Continue reading “Pharisee or Enemy? Categories matter.”
Not a tear wasted
You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book. -Psalm 56:8, NLT Not a tear wasted. God is tender towards those He loves. And He loves you, dear Faithful Spouse. Not only does He see each tear, He draws close … Continue reading “Not a tear wasted”
Self Destruction
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. -I Corinthians 6:18, NIV Adultery is self-destructive sin. It is not life-giving. It is not joy-producing. It is not (ultimately) fulfilling. God condemns this behavior for how destructive it is. He made us … Continue reading “Self Destruction”
Kind no more
Your kindness will reward you, but your cruelty will destroy you. -Proverbs 11:17, NLT In the end, I remember a hardness of heart seemed to have come over my Cheater. Her best trait–kindness–was no longer evident to me. I think actions and choices can transform a person. We reject God’s invitations to righteousness enough, God … Continue reading “Kind no more”
PSA: Not everyone is reasonable!
Public Service Announcement (PSA): Not everyone will be reasonable! “Now think it over and see what you can do, because disaster is hanging over our master and his whole household. He is such a wicked man that no one can talk to him.” -Servant to Abigail, I Samuel 25:17, NIV This verse comes from … Continue reading “PSA: Not everyone is reasonable!”
Gonna go with that?!
“I was going to tell you, but I thought you’d get angry,” says Cheater. “You’re really going to blame me for your cheating and lying?” asks Faithful Spouse. Really, gonna go with that?! The sad thing is that we–faithful spouses–often let Cheaters off the hook. Of course, you cannot get angry or then you confirm … Continue reading “Gonna go with that?!”
Another Podcast Resource: “Therapy and Theology”
Recently, someone alerted me to an excellent podcast on infidelity discovery and betrayal trauma in general. It is Lysa TerKeurst’s podcast. Her podcast is “Therapy and Theology” and this particular season is Season 7 as they tackle to topic of betrayal. I listened to the first episode entitled “I’m Afraid I’m Being Betrayed” and found … Continue reading “Another Podcast Resource: “Therapy and Theology””