“We both know our marriage was in trouble for years. The affair wasn’t really the issue. It was just an exit affair.”
-Cheater
I hate how people minimize the damage of adultery by labeling some affairs: “exit affairs.”
Does it make it less of a sin in God’s eyes if it was an “exit affair?” Did this revised Ten Commandments just not make it into any of my Bibles? You know, the one where “exit affairs” are the exception to “Thou shalt not commit adultery?”
It is ridiculous.
So what if the marriage was struggling?! Do we give murderers permission to shoot cancer patients just because they are sick? Of course, not.
Adultery is adultery.
Doesn’t matter the marriage circumstances prior to the affair. The Bible labels adultery–“exit affair” or not–as evil sin (see Deuteronomy 22:22 and Exodus 20:14).
My take on “exit affair” is from the perspective of the betrayed spouse. My former wife purposely sought a dupe with whom she would cheat, and her intention was to END the marriage. During the final months of the marriage, she purposely hung out with people who deviously supported her plan to cheat on me and end the marriage. She even said if it had not been this man, it would have been someone else.
I had never heard of such a deliberate and diabolical way of ending the marriage. Her method is also referred to as an “exit affair”, but I don’t see it in this case as a way of diminishing her act of adultery. In this case, it makes it all that much more devious and hurtful.
I think they cheat because they want to cheat. Saying it was a way to end the marriage ( exit affair ) is them blame shifting – again.
Thinking they hurt the chump is cake to them.