Holidays can be hard!

I just want to acknowledge that. This time of year can be difficult for those of us who are experiencing the traumatic ending of a marriage. They are seasons that bring the loses in focus.

It is okay to be sad.

It is okay to NOT be okay.

Your feelings are YOUR feelings.

You get to feel them.

I will never forget one Christmas just prior to the ending of my marriage. It was awful.

Nothing like holidays to make you feel like you’ve grow a third arm. Or maybe you are missing your kids due to the separation? Or maybe you feel the acute loss of the marriage you THOUGHT you had (but didn’t)?

I want you to know that this feeling is finite. It does not go on forever. Yet avoiding does no good.

Face the truth and reality. That is the best way to healing. Only way to heal is THROUGH the grief.

And one Christmas sometime, you might find the new normal is–dare I say–better than the past ever was!!!