Today, I received a simple junk-mail in my inbox. It was forwarded to me from my ex-wife.
In the past, such an email would have triggered a “flight” response in my body as I felt my chest-tighten in panic. It didn’t elicit that sort of response in me this time.
This tells me something:
Healing has occurred. I am no longer a slave to the fear of my past.
Why do I share this moment?
I suspect some of you read this blog wondering if ever such a day will occur for you. My suspicion is that many can relate to that panic feeling whenever one’s cheater makes contact–even by email.
My testimony here is to encourage you that such healing can and did happen. I am living proof.
Now, I think it has helped that this is the first “direct” contact I have had with her in roughly five years. No contact does wonders for one’s healing.
Some reading don’t have that option because you have children with your cheater. My encouragement is to limit contact to the essential child-care business.
Also, the other key is that I have moved on from my ex-wife. I have a really fulfilling life that I have built with God’s help.
Pining away is not a recipe for healing. Nor is wallowing in what can never be.
You have choices. It may be difficult–it usually is in these matters–but you can choose to take steps even now in rebuilding a fulfilling life for yourself.
Healing DOES come!
Never forget that. Hold onto that hope with faith in your awesome, loving, good God.
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