… I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery.

-Jeremiah 3:8b, NLT

Sometimes the marriage is over. Done.

 

I won’t forget working out with a guy during the time of my divorce. He saw his actions as what had doomed his first marriage. This individual acknowledged that sometimes there is just “too much water under the bridge.”

 

This does not mean hope no longer exists for the cheater.

This individual was remarried and had done the hard work at facing his demons. He reported how it was hard to look in the mirror, but it was necessary.

 

This is the hope for cheaters.

 

If they look in the mirror and change course, they can have a better, life-filled future. It is called repentance.

 

However, this transformation might not include the survival of the marriage. There might have been “too much water under [that] bridge.”

 

The traumatic trust violations might be too much for marriage to be rebuild from the burnt ground of the infidelity.

 

All that means is that actions have consequences. What is done cannot be undone. Part of growing and repenting is accepting these truths.

 

Hope exists for cheaters…only if they are willing to look in the mirror and repent.

 

Sadly, many cheaters never do.

 

 

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