I envy some faithful spouses.

The cheater cheats on them, gets discovered, and the faithful spouse does not even blink an eye in telling that cheater it is over. They refuse to be treated like that.

They exercise their permission to divorce without looking back.

That wasn’t me.

I suspect many of us did what I did–namely, I continued hoping even through the dried ink on the divorce decree that the marriage would survive with the cheater repenting. She didn’t, and it didn’t, of course.

So, I know how hard it is to have such wonderfully enforced boundaries.

Now, I have grown in my assertiveness and ability to set boundaries since my divorce. Mrs. DM acknowledges such improvements–particularly the assertiveness ones.

So, I guess that is my way of saying there is hope for you, too, if you struggled with setting your boundaries and being assertive with your cheater.

That said, I tip my hat to those of us who did not tolerate the cheating, even for a second, once discovered. Impressive!