Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.

-Matthew 7:5, KJV

When your (ex) in-laws are lecturing your about your “marriage failures,” you need to understand that they are part of the problem.

Such lectures are unlikely to have come from a vacuum. They have likely talked with their cheater child, and this is the outcome of that conversation. These (ex) in-laws are now part of the cheater’s coordinated attack on you and attempt to saddle you with the blame he or she deserves.

End or limit contact (if ending is impossible).

As much as you want to expose your heart to them and tell them how their child has hurt you, please don’t!

Remember that they have chosen “Team Cheater.”

This means they will take that information and betray you with it. Such information is a rich field in which to stick even more “knives.” Do not give them such precious ground.

What about the kids?

Adultery is abuse.  You are modeling health to your children by not tolerating abuse. Remember that.

You are getting out of this marriage as a way to escape an abusive situation.

Any truly loving parent would want their child to escape abuse!

 

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