“Let the day of my birth be erased, and the night I was conceived.”
-Job 3:3, NLT
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“I Wish it Would Rain” by The Temptations has an interesting back story.
Rodger Penzabene allegedly wrote this song from a place of discovering that his wife had been unfaithful. He was overcome with the pain and killed himself with a gun.
When talking about infidelity discovery, I hear and read about fears regarding pushing the cheater to suicide. However, little effort is made to realize how faithful spouses are close to killing themselves as well.
Despair is real for faithful spouses.
I know the thought of killing myself entered my mind during some of my darkest moments.
Suicide is NOT the answer, though!
Such means the cheater wins. And it means hurting the people who actually love you deeply. Trust me, those people DO exist.
As much pain or how hopeless life seems right now, I assure you the acute pain will pass and opportunities will come. This is something I can say from my own experience. It happened for me and can for you, too.
As outsiders, I write this post to help you understand how devastating discovering an unfaithful spouse is for the faithful partner.
The secular world might make adultery look “hip.” Christians might minimize adultery as just one sin (“We’re all sinners, after all“).
But I assure you that being cheated upon is world up-ending for the faithful partner…
Being cheated on is so traumatic that suicide looks like an appealing exit from the pain and mess such infidelity makes of the faithful spouse’s future.
This is part of the reason I am so adamant that adultery NEEDS TO BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY!
Faithful spouses need to know God’s people will rally around them and support them as people who understand adultery as utterly devastating.
The victims of such horrific sin deserve this compassion far more than the perpetrators. Yet for some backwards reason, we seem to extend compassion to the later on this matter while ignoring the former.
This needs to stop. We need to expand our compassion to adultery victims and recognize how tenuous their hold on life might be!
