The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.”
-Genesis 3:12, NIV
Cheaters are known to make their spouse out to be a monster.
If you are a faithful man, the go-to is a cheater claiming that you are a threat. They portray you as a knuckle-dragging, wife beater, abuser. This (false) portrayal wins them automatic sympathy and–most importantly–distracts the viewers from the cheater’s sinful infidelity.
Now, if you are a woman, the monster portrayal can go two ways. Either you are a heartless, frigid woman, or you are a bat-sh*$ crazy siren. This garners sympathy for them, and it helps distract viewers from their own abusive behavior in cheating.
Nothing is new here, though.
From the beginning of time, humans caught in their sin have been pointing the figure at others. Adam and Eve did it in the Garden of Eden. Cheaters continue to follow their example.
The sad part is some pastors fail to understand this very basic dynamic. They get taken in by the cheater’s portrayals of their victims. Instead of seeing them as ploys to manipulate outsiders, they seriously embrace the fabricated images of faithful spouses as the monsters cheaters claim them to be.
