Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and nights. No one said a word to Job, for they saw that his suffering was too great for words.
-Job 2:13, NIV
Just as the wedding day is a family event, the adultery discovery and divorce are felt by the same family as well.
Sure, the couple is primary in both of those days and events. However, the emotional joy and pain is shared across the family and friend systems. It is not just a private “affair.”
No loving parent wants their child to suffer soul rape!
I will never forget how my father experience my first marriage’s demise. He told me that his own mother’s death was easier on him.
That doesn’t sound like my marriage’s ending was just between me and my ex-wife. It impacted my loving father as well.
This is why I get annoyed at those who trivialize adultery and its damage. It is so painful. Plus, that pain is felt across the family.
Those that teach adultery as if it is enlightened relationship behavior are enabling cruelty, in my opinion.
There is a new popular country song that prompted this post. It is about dating and breaking up. While that is more trivial than a divorce, I appreciate how the singer talks about the community cost of a relationship ending.
