Grief is not linear and is not rational.

I don’t know about you, but I wish this was otherwise about grief. It would be nice to say that when you’ve gone through one task then it is done. But that is NOT how grief works.

It doesn’t go through orderly phases in sequence. It isn’t something you can “think” your way through. It is an emotional process. And it has reasons that the heart knows alone.

You hear a song. Then suddenly you are transported back to a memory and feel the tears welling up. This is grief.

It ambushes us.

That said, I am glad for grief. It means I attached. That is a good thing, a healthy thing.

Those unaffected by the tremendous losses as some Cheaters seem to be are signs of a lack of health. Do not envy the disordered!

So, if you find yourself ambushed by grief today, don’t judge but embrace the moment. It means you have a BIG heart, and that is a gift!