“Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you are like whitewashed tombs which indeed appear beautiful outwardly, but inside are full of dead men’s bones and all uncleanness.”

-Matthew 23:27, NKJV

I have noticed a common phenomenon with cheaters and their families of origin.

Often times, they come from families that have an appearance of wholesomeness and godliness. These families are good at putting on a “show” for those on the outside.

The “whitewashing” of their “houses” make them look very good to those who do not know better. However, once you enter the houses, you start to see the skeletons inside.

Cheaters who come from  these backgrounds are tortured people.

They have lived their lives with dissonance. Cheaters from these worlds have had to live lies to keep their families “house” looking good. Sadly, they project this “demand” upon the faithful spouse that they have wronged.

The only hope I see for these people is to confront the lies of their past. They need to break from a life patterned to appearances over substance. It is a hard matter of repentance for them.

Sadly, this is hard road often not taken by such cheaters.

So, they remain trapped in this cycle of wanting to be righteous but unwilling to do the work to do so. It is sad. They have chosen to remain in the tomb with those bones.