Pro-Tip: Marry a Bad Liar
One of Mrs. DM’s many endearing traits is that she is a bad liar. I can tell when she is trying to fool me…usually.
My ex-wife was (and is?) an excellent liar in my opinion. And that is not a complement. It is my observation.
It was chilling how well she lied. Maybe you can relate?
I remember one instance where I would have had absolutely no clue that she had lied about a late night rendezvous with a male “friend” if she had not confessed to having just lied to me.
That experience hammered home to me that she could pretty much liar through any situation, and I would likely not know better unless I had the actual facts independently.
Life is so much better with a bad liar as a spouse!
Not only do I avoid the awful experience of staying married to an unrepentant cheater, I also have avoided the endless anxiety of living with the knowledge that I am married to someone who is comfortable (and good) at lying to me.
Give me a guileless, open spouse any day over scheming actress!
So, my recommendation is to look for that open and transparent trait if you decide to remarry (or marry for the first time).
Bad liars make for great spouses!
*A version of this post ran previously.
As I mentioned before in one of my other comments on this blog, I was married to a man who was a pathological liar, drunkard, and an adulterous (cheater). It is amazing to me that my ex-husband lied to me throughout our entire marriage, and I was so trusting of him, that I did not catch him in his lying until we had been married for a while. Now, when I think about it, I feel so stupid. Often, I pray that God, the Lord Jesus Christ, will bring justice for all the abuse I received from that man. The emotional scars and pain remain within me. SMH!
My ex actually wasn’t that great of a liar. It’s why he kept getting caught. I heard some interesting ones. The female mistress talking so loudly that I could hear it was a woman he was talking to on the phone was supposed to be a male boss who by the way had a reasonably low male voice.