Pro-Tip: Marry a Bad Liar
One of Mrs. DM’s many endearing traits is that she is a bad liar. I can tell when she is trying to fool me…usually.
My ex-wife was (and is?) an excellent liar in my opinion. And that is not a complement. It is my observation.
It was chilling how well she lied. Maybe you can relate?
I remember one instance where I would have had absolutely no clue that she had lied about a late night rendezvous with a male “friend” if she had not confessed to having just lied to me.
That experience hammered home to me that she could pretty much liar through any situation, and I would likely not know better unless I had the actual facts independently.
Life is so much better with a bad liar as a spouse!
Not only do I avoid the awful experience of staying married to an unrepentant cheater, I also have avoided the endless anxiety of living with the knowledge that I am married to someone who is comfortable (and good) at lying to me.
Give me a guileless, open spouse any day over scheming actress!
So, my recommendation is to look for that open and transparent trait if you decide to remarry (or marry for the first time).
Bad liars make for great spouses!
What a great insight! Many shows on television today glamorize lying…the slick con man who works as a agent for the FBI. The variations are endless. The hustlers as the smartest person in the room.
And just the other day, I thought…what a terrible life lesson. To portray liars as sexy, exciting or “edgy”. It does not show the path of destruction and misery they leave in their wake, like a bad smell.
This is excellent life advice. I have began dating and have found that my red alert danger signals go off if someone appears to me too smooth. If I am unsure about someone, I ask G-d to work it out for me…this is usually in the form of a gut feeling that surfaces in a few days to gracefully let that person’s call or text go unanswered.
I have long let go of the idea of a perfect mate. But, if someone is at least honest, and lying makes them uncomfortable…we at least have a fighting chance. In truth, I am not sure I would survive another 20 rounds with a liar. I would rather be alone.