Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery.
-Hebrews 13:4, NLT
Choosing to cheat is just that…
A CHOICE!
It is a sinful choice. And a God-defying choice. A choice that the chooser explicitly said, promised, and vowed before God that they would not choose.
Yet they did choose.
They cheated.
I grow weary of all the excuses people make for adulterous spouses. The excuses and blameshifting needs to stop. This is not that difficult.
Who chose to cheat?
Wouldn’t it make sense to hold that person accountable for that choice as opposed to the person with whom they broke their vows by cheating?!
Whatever the state of the marriage, that does not change this very important historical fact:
The cheater was the one doing the choosing as it came to choosing adultery!
The faithful spouse did not.
Do we really want churches and communities where we hold victims responsible for choices made to harm them? I don’t.
So, let’s stop doing that as it comes to blaming adultery victims for adulterous detonated marriages.
