A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back.

-Proverbs 29:11, NKJV

I have little doubt cheaters have issues.

They may even have some legitimate complaints about us, their spouses. However, these legitimate issues are not excuses to sin.

God does not give us permission to sin.

What many  people get wrong with adultery is focusing on the issues of the cheater. They fail to focus where it matters:

The cheater’s unacceptable, sinful reaction to issues.

The truth is faithful spouses likely have legitimate issues with the cheater as well. We did not cheat, though. The difference that matters is the response or reaction here.

The Bible warns against us just letting our emotions run the show giving them full vent. A cheater needs to learn this. Lust ought not to be obeyed. This is especially so when cloaked in the lie that it is “love.”

Failing to heed the wisdom in the Bible leads to destruction in both this life and the next.

It is best to learn now to respond rather than react. The “issues” really aren’t what matters. Our reaction (or better yet, response) is.