“If only you had spent more time talking with me, I wouldn’t have cheated on you with him,” says Cheater.

Do NOT take responsibility for your cheater’s emotional affair!

Your cheater–and others–may try to blame you for being cheated on, but that is just wrong. The cheater could have chosen otherwise. She is 100% responsible for her own sin (see 2 Cor 5:10).

Anyone who suggests otherwise is giving you bad advice.

The focus needs to be upon the cheater for her choosing sin over righteousness. This is necessary for any hope of repentance and true restoration of spiritual health.

Remember:

Plenty of people have lonely times in their marriages and yet manage to NEVER cheat–even emotionally.