Faithful spouse, remember who made this mess!
If you are like many of us, you will be tempted to take on responsibility for fixing the relationship blown up by your partner’s infidelity. Please, don’t!
The only way the relationship can be repaired is by the person who blew it up in the first place. Sadly, the same poor character that led to them cheating often leads to them not caring about their responsibilities–like this one.
When the cheater and their supporter try to get you to “own your part,” do not lose sight of why you are even having that conversation. The marriage wouldn’t be in these dire straights if one party had kept their vows.
Until that unfaithful party is willing to keep those vows and make appropriate restitution, you do not have genuine repentance and your marriage is truly over. No miracle here.
A cheater trying to get you to own the marriage’s demise–even a part, in my opinion–is an unrepentant cheater. They want you to forget the truth. Don’t.
