One of the losses that comes with adultery discovery is the loss of a safety and security. No longer can you trust your spouse against the world.
This is a big loss. It is hard to compute often times. We have committed our lives to this person only to be so deeply betrayed.
It is a shock.
This theft of safety and security is one of many harsh realities of infidelity trauma. It is truly disorienting.
The good news is recovery from this loss is possible. It probably will entail divorcing the cheater–at least, it did for me. But you do not have to live in a world where the closest person to you is such a betrayer.
